[w00p123]

My 8-year old daughter was caught trying to have sex at her school with a boy of the same age. They expelled her and when asked why she did it, she said it was due to her thinking that that was the way to express friendship and that she watched Twilight and got the idea from there. So I want to send her to counseling so she can learn why she's too young to have sex and to help with her relationship skills because she doesn't seem to understand much of what went on, this also prompted me to send her to ADHD counseling. Before I send her, I was curious as to what my daughter and the future counselor would be talking about? What kind of exercises would they be doing and how would the counselor help my daughter with this issue?

[w00p123]

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[vans1974]

Originally Posted by w00p123

My 8-year old daughter was caught trying to have sex at her school with a boy of the same age. They expelled her and when asked why she did it, she said it was due to her thinking that that was the way to express friendship and that she watched Twilight and got the idea from there. So I want to send her to counseling so she can learn why she's too young to have sex and to help with her relationship skills because she doesn't seem to understand much of what went on, this also prompted me to send her to ADHD counseling. Before I send her, I was curious as to what my daughter and the future counselor would be talking about? What kind of exercises would they be doing and how would the counselor help my daughter with this issue?

Sorry to hear, that's a difficult issue! I'm not a professional but I've heard that the "Kids Helpline" on the web is a great resource for situations like this! Best of luck and hope that helps a bit!

Kids Help Line : Crisis Center

[Harley47]

Hi there Woop. I hope I can be of some help.

On the bright side, while I'm not a professional, I don't think there's anything "wrong" per se with your daughter, as far as any sort of mental health issues go. The issue here is that she, by virtue of Twilight, mistakenly associated sex with friendship, which given the movie and how young your daughter is, from her perspective, that seems to make sense. Have you two had "the talk" prior to this?

Likely, the counselor will simply try to clarify that sex isn't necessarily part of friendship. He or she will emphasize that sex is something very special, something between two people who are in a relationship (he'll probably, if I had to guess, say "two people that are married," in order to emphasize the level of relationship), etc etc. His goal will simply to be to drive the point home that this is something unbecoming of two friends, particularly at her age. So, nothing overly jarring for your daughter. Don't let that worry you.

Does she have a history of ADHD? I don't see how that would be pertinent without a history of it.

As far as your part goes, in the future, just really drive home that what she sees in movies isn't reflective of reality. Make sure she understands that things seen on the screen aren't "real," so to speak. I think she just made an inference based on the movie, which as I said earlier, given the movie and everything it's about, it's a very simple, very innocent mistake to make on the part of a child. I know that doesn't make it any less upsetting for you as the parent (I'm not a parent, but I am an older brother to a six year old sister...I'd be absolutely hysterical), but if you can, watch the movie and try to put yourself in her perspective. I think you'll see where she was coming from, so to speak.

On the whole, I think a counselor will probably be able to swiftly resolve this, and I don't think this should be anything that should concern you in the long run. I think in the end, everything will be alright.

Hugs,
Harley

PS: Do the other kids know what happened? While this in itself I don't think is too bad, I am worried if she'll be a target for bullying when she goes back. Perhaps you could address that to the counselor?