[anxiety247]

Hi,

Hmm where to begin. LOL. Ok I am a gay woman and I have a female friend I made online whom i have got really close with. She is married and she is bi-curious. Maybe two yrs ago she crossed the lines of our friendship with sexual talk that was inappropriate. I had to distance myself from her because I do have feeling for her and I know this will never go any further. After a few months we start talking again all was going well until sex came back up and I feel right into the trap this time. Stopped talking again for awhile and then just recently it started back up the sex talks.

I think from my end I am seriously lonely I haven't been in a relationship for almost 3yrs plus this comes at a bad timing in my life where I am extremely vulnerable - I have some family do some rotten stuff to disowned me and it feels NICE being wanted and not rejected....But with this woman in my logical mind she is not leaving her husband and I am just setting myself up to be hurt over and over again with her. It frustrates me I try to stick to my boundaries and they get crossed. How the heck do I deal with this? Do i walk away ? Block all communications? I can't be that person where she is feeling lonely to have phone sex with. I want something more meaningful then that!!!

HELP

[spondiferous]

Hey there. It sounds like you've given this relationship a shot a few times now, and yeah, walking away might just be the best thing for you. It's clear that you have feelings for her and that she is unable to keep the relationship platonic on her end, so nobody's boundaries are being respected at this point (and it sounds like they're probably wishy-washy at this point anyway). I think in order to keep your sanity intact you should probably work on meeting someone who can give you what you need instead of treating you like a right-now woman (if, in fact, a relationship is what you are looking for). Sorry this is happening for you. It's challenging when there's something good in our lives that comes along with so many strings attached. Hope it all works out for you somehow.

[danvb]

Yeah, what spondiferous just said...