what are your views on pornography?

It's a weird thing for me. On an intellectual standpoint, I think it's a disgusting industry. I feel bad for the people involved...perhaps it's my admittedly old fashioned views or my own preconceived stereotypes on the industry or both, but I can't imagine too many (note: too many. I know there are some) women (or men, I suppose) that say "I wanna grow up and do porno!" I feel bad for them. I find it degrading.

Then there's the perspective of a 20 year old single male, which I also happen to be, so...do the math.

It's a completely night and day thing in my brain...usually depending on whether or not it is actually night or day.

I look at porn on a regular basis. Sometimes it consumes my life. I feel that it causes some discomfort in my life. I haven't talked to my therapist about it because it's embarrassing. I feel that my lack of a relationship seems to add to my pornography addiction.

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Um... I sorta knew what this topic was about when I made my last post here... I mean, I knew that everyone was assuming that the question was about watching porn... even though the question isn't asking that question specifically.

I just thought I'd give it a different sort of spin... I mean, the topic asked nothing other than what our views on pornography are... That leaves the field pretty darned wide open for interpretation!

I just thought I'd step "out of the box" and look at the question from in a different angle... What are my views on (the making of) pornography?

I mean, I assume everyone has an opinon on the making of pornography... Yes?

Well, there ya go then...

Well there's been studies that show it rewires the brain and can effect a man's erection quality. I'm staying away from it, or at least trying to.

Huh! Interesting. I wonder what studies you're talking about. Do you have any more information on those that you can share? I'd love to know more about it.

Dan

Google yourbrainonporn and look for videos by Gary Wilson on youtube.

That's lots of info out there and it's getting around more and more that porn really isn't that healthy.

Pornography can be amazing, entertaining and satisfying, so long as everyone involved realizes it can't be a substitute for the real thing, either literally or implied. By literally, I mean that I know a lot of young men for example, who are so afraid of rejection that they spend all of their time watching porn, and don't actually engage with women, and by implied, that is, what you are watching, is pure fantasy.

I love pornography, I enjoy pornography alone and with my partner. I am married to an absolutely insatiable man, with an appetite that rivals only mine, so I'm lucky to be in a stabilized, if not over hypersexualized marriage. It's what my hubby and I jokingly call a "pornographic" marriage. I know that my husband watches porn and I have absolutely no issue with it at all. My husband knows that I too, watch and enjoy it.

With that, I've also spent time with people in the porn industry and have a very keen sense of what is actually happening on porn sets, and I assure that the atmosphere in making said films is not the hot lusty fantasies you see enacted for you. Pornography is shot, directed, and enacted to inspire a type of sex that is most people's "fantasy of sex" (and regretfully the angle is 99% skewed towards mens pleasure, not to say that women can't derive pleasure from watching straightforward commercialized pornography). If you are having issues with your partner and think watching pornography will somehow fix the problem, it won't, and in fact can cause esteem issues, confidence issues and the likes. Pornography is not an instruction manual. What is can serve as, is a guide to desires, fantasies and things that might not be being expressed between two people. Porn should be a game changer, not the game itself.