Blow Up Dolls

Don't worry about trying to satisfy a prostitute. You're paying her to satisfy you and of she get's off from it that's a bonus but not a requirement.

Don't say you're a virgin. Even if she's figures it out, once cash has been exchanged and you're about to get down to business, she's very unlikely to call it off.

I don't trust anyone. Seriously. Stuff happens that ONLY happens to ME. I don't think anyone has ever been turned down by a hooker because of virginity, ever. If it's a deal breaker and virginity makes me (insert slur), I need to know because I don't want to be shattered again.

Maybe these werent actually females. So they couldnt give you what you wanted. So really, it wasnt you, it was them. How about a lap dance at a strip club?

I don't know the answer. All I know is I can't take anymore.

Wow o.o

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I agree. Paid sex should be like any other business, regulated and with transparency (think BBB, Yelp, etc.). Of course clients would be reluctant to post reviews of prostitutes, for the same reason for which mental health providers garner far fewer Yelp reviews than do gardeners and hairdressers, but maybe some anonymized version of Yelp for sex work would do. I know that Nevada brothel websites post client testimonials, but with first names only, and nobody knows what happened in reality. It should be as transparent as Amazon, Etsy, and Ebay, with public percentages of client satisfaction. But it is not, which is why you got ripped off. Repeating - illegality and lack of transparency and accountability are breeding grounds for shady practices and yes, you are likely to lose money because of all the users of this shady system, you are the most naive, so no wonder you got ripped off.

you could really benefit from CBT, because the way you think of cause and effect - thanks Harley for catching - is a classic example of cognitive distortion. A textbook example, really. I mean, really - a hopeful first time customer enters a grey market having no insider knowledge or connections, on the one hand, and displaying higher than average anxiety, on the other hand. An unscrupulous seller quickly recognizes the high anxiety of her bidder and determines that this one will be especially easy to game.

In this scenario, the odds of your being ripped off are, roughly, 95%.

So you get ripped off but disregard the fact that getting ripped off was almost a certainty and say that your virginity caused it. It is almost a little grandiose to think so, because you think of your personal parameters causing the events that in reality were caused by the operation of market forces. The only virginity that raised the likelihood of your getting ripped off is the lack of experience hiring hookers. I am sure that had you had 5 gfs in the past, you would still have gotten ripped off because as a hooker customer, you would have been as much as a naive virgin as you are now.

your next step is to say that bad things happen only to you. It is like saying that only you do not win lotteries. Another cognitive distortion.

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I agree with Sophiesmom that a courtesan would be preferable for you. Or a geisha. But not a hooker. I just don't know where you could procure one safely.

speaking of Craigslist, in or around 2008 a prostitute placing ads in san Francisco was murdered. The response should have been to decriminalize, legalize, and regulate. Instead, Craigslist promised to I stitute tighter controls, rolled eyes.

Wait. Wait. Wait. I skipped this one. You paid and she did not show up. So how did you pay her? PayPal? I hope she cannot draw more money out of your PayPal account. Hopefully PayPal has some protection in place, unlike Target... but still, what possessed you to prepay a prostitute in a state where prostitution is illegal? Leave no traces and the only money that doesn't smell is cash.

I suggest you take a break from considering buying either a doll or sex, and read "The Tropic of Cancer."

Tropic of Cancer: Henry Miller, Anais Nin, Karl Shapiro: 9780802131782: Amazon.com: Books and you can get a good audiobook.

No, I used Western Union to send money to her agency. Cover the tracks, if asked, just say it's for a friend.

Did you ever think about going to see a Sex surrogate

Wow, what a great idea. Expensive, but far better results

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...holy Hell, I looked at it.

Doc, go back and look at it! It's not a woman! It's one of the dolls!

If you're wealthy then these sexual surrogates/ Real dolls might be option. If not then your best bet is to find another escort and this time do not tell her you're a virgin.

And dont send money to western union. That is always a ripoff. Thats why they told you to say it was for a friend. If you had told western union it was for a hooker, western union would have told you it was a ripoff. I really doubt you would have been arrested for soliciting, but thats what the scammer was depending on you being worried about. Have you thought about joining a church and meeting a nice girl?

Sex will come a lot easier if it's not the main thing on your mind.

I know you said you're upset that you're still a virgin and that's obviously and understandably going to weigh heavily on your conscience, but would not rather aim for a relationship where you can be happy with somebody and have sex?

You're still young and there are plenty of people out there that are most likely in the same kind of position. I just wouldn't want to be thinking about sex constantly. Sure it might make you feel achieved to finally have popped the cherry so to speak, but is that really going to make you happy in the long run if it's just a fling?

I know it was a doll...but it's still an adult website and not something that should be shared on PC (because there are many many minors on this website who use Sexual and Gender Issues).

Part of me thinks that sex with blow up dolls is very creepy (and no it will not mean that you have lost your virginity any more than masturbating does) and just downright wrong, I can't see anyone being that desperate.

Well, considering the OP is asking about buying a blow-up doll...

Might wanna be careful what you're saying...

I'm not trying to be offensive I am just saying there are other options (like I mentioned earlier going to see a sex surrogate).