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Middlemarcher · Mar 02, 2014 at 05:35 PM

I know you have indicated on this thread and elsewhere that money is tight, so I assume that's why you haven't seen a sexual surrogate (or taken that trip to Nevada). But truthfully, you've indicated that you're so desperate on this issue that if you don't lose your virginity by age 35, you're ready to end your life. If things are that urgent, I wonder if you'd consider getting a second job, borrowing money, looking into credit options, etc.

Hang in there.

hamster-bamster · Mar 02, 2014 at 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by hankster

And dont send money to western union. That is always a ripoff. Thats why they told you to say it was for a friend. If you had told western union it was for a hooker, western union would have told you it was a ripoff. I really doubt you would have been arrested for soliciting, but thats what the scammer was depending on you being worried about. Have you thought about joining a church and meeting a nice girl?

I think the front page of Craigslist warns that a request to wire money via Western Union is a sure way to tell a scammer is at play.

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ak482 · 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Middlemarcher

I know you have indicated on this thread and elsewhere that money is tight, so I assume that's why you haven't seen a sexual surrogate (or taken that trip to Nevada). But truthfully, you've indicated that you're so desperate on this issue that if you don't lose your virginity by age 35, you're ready to end your life. If things are that urgent, I wonder if you'd consider getting a second job, borrowing money, looking into credit options, etc.

Hang in there.

Thanks. I haven't been able to find a surrogate anywhere close to me, so I'll really need to save in order to go to Nevada. Otherwise I just hope to be able to find a reputable escort here who will have sex. I don't know about doing any payday loans or those types of things

Mar 03, 2014 at 01:00 PM

Many escorts leave a number on their website. Just contact the number and arrange a time to meet. Don't bother messaging saying you're a virgin and nervous and all this stuff because some don't like being messaged. Contact by phone and perhaps mention it if you have to, but I'd avoid it if I were you.

Also look for rep. The good escorts will have many good reviews. If you see an escort with no rep avoid because although they may well be genuine and just starting a profile, there's also some scams out there. If you see one with many good reviews and the odd negative review that's fine, but of course avoid one that has many negative rep.

allme · Mar 03, 2014 at 01:08 PM

If you want to PM me I can recommend a couple of US escort agencies. I would recommend an agency over independent as most agencies require a verification picture. Some independent sites put up fake pictures.

It seems another thread has been started re escorts. I am disappointed some ppl want to throw oil on the fire.

allme · Mar 03, 2014 at 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Many escorts leave a number on their website. Just contact the number and arrange a time to meet. Don't bother messaging saying you're a virgin and nervous and all this stuff because some don't like being messaged. Contact by phone and perhaps mention it if you have to, but I'd avoid it if I were you.

Also look for rep. The good escorts will have many good reviews. If you see an escort with no rep avoid because although they may well be genuine and just starting a profile, there's also some scams out there. If you see one with many good reviews and the odd negative review that's fine, but of course avoid one that has many negative rep.

Yeah there isn't any need to mention you're a virgin, unless of course you really would rather say!

Harley47 · Mar 03, 2014 at 03:06 PM

lol Sign out for one day, topic goes to hell in a handbasket.

What were we arguing? I'm really not seeing any line of logic in here that would qualify such...vehemence. I'm not tracking. Not trying to rekindle whatever it was that happened, but...wow.

So, anyway, blow up dolls.

I promised I'd look around for some data...I have not gotten around to that yet, but I'll do what I can for ya OP.

ak482 · Mar 04, 2014 at 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Harley47

lol Sign out for one day, topic goes to hell in a handbasket.

What were we arguing? I'm really not seeing any line of logic in here that would qualify such...vehemence. I'm not tracking. Not trying to rekindle whatever it was that happened, but...wow.

So, anyway, blow up dolls.

I promised I'd look around for some data...I have not gotten around to that yet, but I'll do what I can for ya OP.

No worries Harley. I just threw it out as an idea, but it's really in the end not worth it for me. There's no substitute for the real deal, which I pray comes soon. My efforts thus far have been futile

Angelornot · May 09, 2014 at 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ak482

It's because I requested actual sex not just foreplay and fun, and I needed it because I am a virgin. I asked her if the virginity was why, and of course I never got a reply.

Talk about the ultimate degradation, that's why I feel like I'm meant to never have sex.

Maybe she just felt guilty about taking your virginity. If it were me I'd be afraid to take someone's virginity because I'd want it to be as good of an experience as possible.

ak482 · May 12, 2014 at 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Angelornot

Maybe she just felt guilty about taking your virginity. If it were me I'd be afraid to take someone's virginity because I'd want it to be as good of an experience as possible.

I just want my virginity gone before I get into a relationship because no woman I know wants to put up with a "boy" my age who has no experience and has to be taught.

RTerroni · May 16, 2014 at 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by ak482

I just want my virginity gone before I get into a relationship because no woman I know wants to put up with a "boy" my age who has no experience and has to be taught.

Yeah I know it can be hard.

Myotherlife · Jul 14, 2014 at 09:25 PM

If I were in your position, I wouldn't hesitate to employ a sex worker. I'm reminded of my father, who taught me that sex was "beautiful," to use his word, but only if you were married. I've always wondered what he would expect me to do if I didn't ever find someone to marry. Be a virgin forever? He wasn't a stupid man, but those were sure stupid words.

I live in a community which has a popular weekly newspaper with hundreds of classified ads for every kind of sex worker you can imagine, and I have no doubt that some of them are attractive, skilled, disease-free professionals who really like sex but don't want the encumbrances of a relationship. If I weren't married to a woman who makes sure I get enough sex, with her or solo, I would sure as hell find a good professional woman. Sorry, Dad!

Other

Jul 15, 2014 at 03:00 PM

Why have you resigned yourself to never having sex or being in a relationship? You should try online dating, or go to a bar? Virginity is just a concept - read up on sex and learn some tips about it, and work on changing your way of thinking. You can't say that "no one" would ever want to have sex with you because you're a virgin. You haven't met everyone in the world. I think that if you became more confident and not so down on yourself about being a virgin, someone would like that about you. Being a virgin does not make you a "boy" - your attitude about it does. I hope this helps.

ak482 · Jul 15, 2014 at 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by nevergoodenough

Why have you resigned yourself to never having sex or being in a relationship? You should try online dating, or go to a bar? Virginity is just a concept - read up on sex and learn some tips about it, and work on changing your way of thinking. You can't say that "no one" would ever want to have sex with you because you're a virgin. You haven't met everyone in the world. I think that if you became more confident and not so down on yourself about being a virgin, someone would like that about you. Being a virgin does not make you a "boy" - your attitude about it does. I hope this helps.

I'm seeing a sex therapist, and that's something we discuss. My concern, which I want to share with her more, is the fact that I would have someone who is willing to teach me how to have sex. Yes I can read about it (and have for my between-session homework) but it's not the same as actual performance.

I've also been on a no-strings-attached site, and I already get jumpy and jittery when I message and e-mail someone with some dirty talk and fantasies. If I'm that jittery now, how bad will I be when it comes? And if I'm that anxious, it's surely a giveaway.

trying2survive · Jul 19, 2014 at 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ak482

It's because I requested actual sex not just foreplay and fun, and I needed it because I am a virgin. I asked her if the virginity was why, and of course I never got a reply.

Talk about the ultimate degradation, that's why I feel like I'm meant to never have sex.

that was what we call a "cash and dash" she knew you were a newbie and gotcha

TheWell · Jul 19, 2014 at 02:34 PM

One thing I would recommend is that you need to stop worrying that everyone knows you are a virgin because you are nervous, don't know what to do, etc.

When I was younger and first started having sex there were a lot of awkward fumbling moments on both sides. It didn't matter if it was the first time or the fifth. The first time with someone new was always a bit nervous. I have had sex with people who have plenty of experience who didn't know what they were doing and sex with beginners who did really well.
Luck,
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