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Default Apr 11, 2014 at 07:36 AM
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I don't mean muscles, just strength. My physique is pretty normal, I don't go to the gym or anything, but my partner says that I am surprisingly strong, particularly in the upper body.

Is this a turn on ?
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Default Apr 11, 2014 at 08:53 AM
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For me, YES. Strength to me is a very masculine feature and that is attractive to most women.

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Default Apr 11, 2014 at 09:52 AM
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Whenever I wonder something like that I think about how neanderthals would choose a mate. A male would have to be able to demonstrate being healthy, being able to provide and to father strong, healthy children. Ergo, a physically strong guy would be attractive because he could wrestle a bear to be able to feed his clan.

Men and women still react that way. Guys respond to women that physically demonstrate fertility and child-rearing while women tend to respond to guys that look healthy and strong.

Thus the reason my wife doesn't seem to find me attractive. I'm small, slow and not overly physically capable.

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Default Apr 11, 2014 at 10:00 AM
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Some days that is a feature I like. The male body is a wonderful peace of art, and muscles just add to the beauty.

Sometimes If I am feeling secure to begin with that is a feature I like but attitude goes along with that. Other times if I am feeling timid muscles scare me. It reminds me of the power a man can have and it makes me feel scared and helpless, but it again depends on the attitude that goes along with that.

Muscles with a bad *** attitude is not so good muscles with an attitude of warmth and compassion is a good thing
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Default Apr 12, 2014 at 12:05 AM
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I find that traits I maybe didn't like, for example, beards, can be totally turned around by the right guy with the *previously* undesired trait. When I love someone, their traits even quirks are the things I come to love.

So if I met a jerk with lots of strength, I'd come to dislike it. If I fell for a sweet, noble, affectionate guy then I'd swoon for strength.
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I don't care how many pounds a man can lift but it is sexy to be able to help unload a hundred bales of hay or cut down a tree and split it for firewood. Just my two cents........

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Default Apr 12, 2014 at 01:03 AM
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Is strength attractive? On my planet weakness is sexy so I am a lonely but very strong man.
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Whenever I wonder something like that I think about how neanderthals would choose a mate. A male would have to be able to demonstrate being healthy, being able to provide and to father strong, healthy children. Ergo, a physically strong guy would be attractive because he could wrestle a bear to be able to feed his clan.

Men and women still react that way. Guys respond to women that physically demonstrate fertility and child-rearing while women tend to respond to guys that look healthy and strong.

Thus the reason my wife doesn't seem to find me attractive. I'm small, slow and not overly physically capable.
Are you sure your wife doesn't find you attractive or are you just assuming this?
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Default Apr 12, 2014 at 07:53 AM
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Are you sure your wife doesn't find you attractive or are you just assuming this?
  1. She never compliments me. She even stated in couples therapy that she was trying once but couldn't figure out what to say or even get it out.
  2. She constantly compliments and talks about how great this guy or that guy looks.
  3. Even after 15 years, she still recoils when I touch her hand or leg or grab her playfully in a bear hug.
  4. She has stated that I don't give her anything that she can compliment me on.

The list goes on and on. I know I'm not attractive, I've been told this plenty of times ... Five times right off the top of my head by other people.

I used to be a good man, one that did what was right and honorable no matter how bad the consequences would be for standing up for myself and others. That's why she married me. But after 15 years of negative feedback and losing jobs for remaining ethical, I'm just a shell. She never seemed physically attracted to me and now I don't even have the attractive character traits I once had.

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Default Apr 12, 2014 at 08:02 AM
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I wrestled her into dust, but I don't think I did it with anger, just competitiveness.
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