[wassupiig]

Three years seeing guys and messing around and still haven't met someone who cares for me. Just recently I found out that I could have been exposed to HIV by a dude who lied about his status, we used a condom tho, but its pretty ****ed up to carelessly put someone else in danger. I don't think I will ever be able to love anyone. I've had too much already. Almost raped, used and thrown away by every single guy I've met (and when I say every single guy I am not exaggerating), exposed to HIV, what's next? Is all this my fault? I'm I such a bad person that I just attract bad things? Will I ever be loved? This questions puzzle me. I haven't met a guy who loves me, or cares about me, or does any effort to make me happy, they all just vanish. Idk what to think. There's gotta be more out there, something good waiting for me, although I highly doubt it.

PS: I'm a little upset, just a couple tears but I'm good, I am not depressed or anything just a bit sad about how ugly things have been for me. Is like if I was born this way just to have a lifestyle full of suffering and bad experiences. Idk that's how I feel. Life hasn't shown me anything different.

Good night everyone, hugs

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[smmath]

I'm sorry things have been hard on you and you have been running into a**h****. But I believe that there are good guys out there and one day you will meet your Mr.Right that cares about you. Is it at all possible that you could try online dating or something similar?

Sending hugs your way. I hope things get better for you.

[wassupiig]

Originally Posted by smmath

I'm sorry things have been hard on you and you have been running into a**h****. But I believe that there are good guys out there and one day you will meet your Mr.Right that cares about you. Is it at all possible that you could try online dating or something similar?

Sending hugs your way. I hope things get better for you.

Trust me, being online is what drove me into the mess I got into. I'm staying away from meeting people on websites. However, thank you for replying and your understanding =)

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[smmath]

Sorry, I am not good at giving advice when it comes to relationships. Are there any GSA type things in your community? Maybe that would be a good way to met genuine people.

[wassupiig]

Originally Posted by smmath

Sorry, I am not good at giving advice when it comes to relationships. Are there any GSA type things in your community? Maybe that would be a good way to met genuine people.

Don't feel sorry, you are trying to help and I appreciate that so much! And yea there should be here in NYC

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[smmath]

Thanks. I think a GSA thing would be good.

Feel free to message me if you want to talk.

[Harley47]

No, it's nothing on you Wassupiig. Sometimes bad things happen to good people relationship wise. It's not your fault.

To answer your question, I don't think you're attracting bad people out of yourself being bad. I wouldn't worry about that. Perhaps though there is an underlying thread here? These guys who've treated you like they have...how'd you meet?

That said, I do believe there is someone for everyone. You are no exception. Just give it some time, and don't lose hope. You'll find someone.

Hugs,
Harley

[Trippin2.0]

You haven't really elaborated on your experiences, so forgive me as I could be way off base here,but I think that taking the time to cultivate and nurture a foundation for a relationship before adding sex to the equation may be the way to go. That way you know if they're the vanishing type before you become intimately attached to them and it builds a strong foundation for a longterm relationship in the same breath.

I've found that making them wait usually weeds out the losers quickly.

Unless of course you run into those guys who like the hunt more than the "kill"...
They're a bit harder to weed out than the rest.

My apologies if I've got the wrong end of the stick and seem to be blowing smoke out my a.s.s. my intention really is to help, but I'm admittedly not sure of my footing in this reply and don't want to seem presumptious, judgemental or any type of a.s.s.holian.

Also, to touch on what Harley mentioned, its not at all that you deserve bad men or bad treatment, but it would be worth looking into what these guys had in common, what drew you toward them, and if there were any commonalities in the reason or manner they vanished.

Some insight into this will help you avoid these types of men in future and help keep you safe.

I hope love finds you soon, you are worthy of long lasting love and adoration.