Lesbian loss of libido

My girlfriend and I are about a month away from out one year anniversary. A little bit of back story. I was married to a man when we met. My issue at the time was a lack of an intimate fulfilling sexual relationship. I felt unloved and unwanted. I had had a couple lesbian relationships with my husbands approval. When I met my now partner I just knew she was the one. We had an instant intense connection and the sexual connection was mind-blowing. It still is on those rare occasions. We have committed our lives to each other. Even though this relationship is only a year old we feel like it is a forever love. The problem is she seems to be no longer interested in sex unless it is the one or two days before she starts her period and then it's iffy. She tells me she still loves me and wants me she just has dry spells. She blames this on her diabetes. She's type 1 since she was 7. She also has colitis and Graves' disease. I don't understand this at all. I am trying to be understanding but I equate a loving sexual relationship with a happy health overall loving relationship. Again I am feeling unwanted and unloved. I am trying my best to be understanding but I am scared.

Hi, Mayfree, and welcome to Psych Central! Evidently you are someone who highly values sex as a way to feel loved and wanted.

It sounds like your partner does have some health problems which might affect her desire.

Maybe you can compromise and at least agree to some hugging, back rubs, etc. at the time when she is not interested. I know it's hard not to take it personally though, but I don't hear her saying that she no longer loves you. I hope the two of you will be able to work this issue out.