[cinbengalsrule4]

I have always been fine performance wise in the bedroom, until just this past year when I was 29 (30 now) when I was in the sexual act and I went soft and it has been a battle to try and get back on track. I can get a hard on during foreplay and when I'm alone, but when it comes to penetration I go soft sometimes it really has sent me into a depression. I'm a gay man and with the same partner for over 2 years now and I just feel like it is really killing our relationship and I'm at a loss on where to go from here. It doesn't happen all the time, but he use to get mad when it did in part cause he thought he was the problem, which if you struggle with this you know that is not the case. I have talked to my doctor and went on wellburtin which didn't help me at all, also have tried caialis which helped some, but I'm only 30 and in no way should I need that nor do I want to be on that for the rest of my life, so I'm looking for any help and advice if anyone has any and someone who has the same issues to talk with be awesome . A Big Thanks!!!! Also I have had anxiety for a while,but it just popped up in the bedroom and this is no fun at all.

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[Travelinglady]

Hi, cinbengalsrule4, and welcome to Psych Central! I think some men should be along before too long who will have some thoughts about your situation. I hope things get better soon. Do they not give drugs such as Viagra to men your age?

It helps me if she initiates intercourse, there is less pressure to perform