[savannahmarley]

Hi.

I think I found "the one." He is the greatest person I have ever met
and we fit together like two puzzle pieces in all aspects of life.

Before I met my boyfriend, I was being treated for genital warts. I listened to my doctor's directions and waited the correct amount of time before doing anything sexual with my partner, so that it didn't spread to him...

About two weeks ago, I realized that my warts were back. I went to the doctor immediately and got them treated and did not tell my boyfriend. I have not had sex with him since, and told him that I had to wait two weeks, due to a "vagina problem." My doctor said to tell him it was vaginosis..

I was very angry that my virus came back after the doctor assured me it was gone, but I was more so worried for my partner and worried what he would think. I have such a big conscience and have been feeling so guilty..

I have been subtly checking him every day to see if I notice anything on him that looks different.

This morning, I saw one bump on the underside of his shaft that looks as if it could be out of place. Should I worry?

Does anyone know if there would be just one bump on his penis if it were genital warts or if it would be a group of the virus? It does not look like anything I have found online and when I have had it, it appears as a row of little dots...

On the 18th we are technically allowed to have intercourse again but I do not want to keep passing it back and forth if he has it now and I don't know how to bring this up to him without him stressing out and ending things with me. I do not think he would handle it well, even though I picked up the virus before we met.

Any advice would be helpful.

Thanks!

Savannah Marley

[kaliope]

well if the bump was not on his penis before and it is now, it would be a concern...call your doctor and describe it to see...

see if more bumps come up on him before having sex...

I see no choice but being honest with him...I know this is hard but you are in an adult relationship with him and it means having these types of conversations. hopefully he cares enough about you to understand.

welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[spondiferous]

Hi Savannah. I have to agree wholeheartedly with kaliope. You need to be honest with him, and now. It wasn't your intention to pass it on to him, but you have, and you need to take responsibility so that he can get treated as well. You don't have any control over what his reaction will be, but you do have control over your own actions, and the appropriate thing to do here would be to let him know. I hope everything goes alright.