[XSleepingSiren21X]

I recently heard someone talking about this and I've never heard of such thing, but there is something called 'Demisexual' being another sexuality, but not a heard or common orientation.

Demisexual - AVENwiki

I've read about it some more and did a little research, but I think it's something I can relate to maybe. For a while I've been 'confused' about my sexual orientation and couldn't find the right answers to my specific sexuality and I thing this is what it is. I'm not sure if I'd fully say I'm am this type but if I'd tried to narrow it, I'd put it under this term.

Do you guys maybe relate or think this is a real sexual orientations or would refer yourself to being this type of sexuality?

[vonmoxie]

It would probably apply to me. I am monogamous in nature and practice: my sexual experiences occur within romantic relationships only, are rich and satisfying, and I am most sexually attracted when enjoying an explicitly deep and mutual connection with someone.

But I would not personally refer to myself as a demisexual. I just think of myself as being selective.

Am I freed from temptations for casual sex because I have an innate biological instinct to reject it? Or simply because I realize consciously the role I prefer relationships and sex to play in my life, and the way I prefer to likewise be present in the lives of others? To be honest I can't be entirely sure but I tend to suspect the latter in my case, as I did learn a few things through trial and error in my youth.

[ifst5]

I find this to be an interesting classification. Especially as i always thought sexual attraction usually precedes romantic attachment.

I'm not sure i would consider this a sexuality in and of itself - more like a subset of any regular monogamous relationship.

Intriguing link no less. Thanks for posting.

[seraphic]

I've known a couple people who identify as demisexual and sort of considered it as a possibility for me for a while. I don't anymore because my sexuality is confusing as hell and shifts around over time, but I absolutely think it's a valid sexuality if it resonates with you! imo sexual orientation is often a lot more complicated than just "I like girl" or "I like guys" so I'm totally in favor of finding new ways to describe that.

[RedSun]

Wow, googled demisexual.
That's me! Finally!

[norwegianwoman]

I've also found that this term is something I can relate to. Read quite a lot about it. I think I would be a "mild" case as I can also do "casual sex", if I just met someone the same day, but I always need to feel that there's a connection, that we share something, before I jump into bed with someone. I don't look at a person in a sexual way the first time I meet them, I can't really recall that happening and always found it weird when friends did that.

[ChipperMonkey]

I don't understand the need to identify every little subset of sexuality. It just feels like labels push people farther apart rather than bring them together, and they also tend to feel very black and white in that they create categories rather than simply let people fall somewhere along the sexuality spectrum. I can see myself in part of that definition, but I would never label myself as such because I feel that label would just isolate me and separate me from other people. I agree that it is perhaps a subset of sexuality, but in the end you fall into either being asexual, bisexual, straight or gay/lesbian. Anything else is just a subset of that given that you prefer one sex, the other sex, both sexes, or no sex at all.

[unaluna]

Sorry i was out of line. Post deleted.

[Faniha]

inshort they mean to say is you;re sensible and doesnt give in to ur baser needs...

[justsomeonelse]

Well, by now I'm still pretty asexual but maybe this would apply to me if I found the indicated person

[stages]

I can see the aversion to minuscule divisions but I don't think that means terms like demisexual are useless or bad. In fact I like them. I'd rather everyone just loosen up on the labeling instead.. I don't find a big difference between saying "bisexual ace" or "panromantic", for example, or just "queer" or "gay"*. If I need to be specific that i'm "panromantic asexual" I end up having to explain everything anyways - which really i think is how it is for most people. (Even a straight person might have to explain they don't date blondes because of a traumatic relationship with one, for example)

*gay used to be a catch-all for people that were not-straight, trans, and/or in drag, didn't it? and that stopped when gay men + lesbians + trans people (&etc) all started to split apart for political reasons (particularly, gender identity being struck from nondiscrimination laws bc it was more 'unacceptable' than sexual orientation alone.. ) queer kind of replaces that but cause its still used as a slur in a lot of areas people are still wary of using it, oh well