Is BDSM a mental disease

I had a resent revelation about my bdsm fetish, I believe it comes from childhood. Certain memories have been recalled from earlier than 12 years old. Using bondage to masturbate possibly because of the guilt from being sexual..I have struggled to over come this for years, with no luck. I am dx with bipolar and have asked my t if it could be a symptom of that, she said one might feed the other but no real connection...my question is two part.. is BDSM a mental disease, and is it linked to bipolar..
I am especially interested in any bdsmer that is bipolar...

Despite what's shown in 50 Shades, the BDSM community is big on things like safety, awareness, and knowing what you're getting into. I'm unsure if BDSM desires come from something out of the ordinary in the way someone is wired, but I don't consider it a "mental disease" because of that. Successful, functional people do partake in it plus a lot of other unexpected sexual pastimes, even if it seems like the whole world is having vanilla sex outside of a few unfortunate perverts on the news who've injured themselves trying to get their jollies.

Childhood trauma can impact pretty much every aspect of your life. Not everyone into BDSM has a traumatized childhood, though, so it's not like they have to accompany each other.

My partner has borderline personality disorder which is supposed to share a lot of traits of bp, I am not informed enough to say whether it is true

So any way that's the back story now my point.....

I can always tell when he is gonna have a bad episode because he will initiate dominant/submissive sex, normally taking the submissive roll himself. I may walk upstairs and find him 'tied' to the bed and in a blindfold or another of his favourite ways to initiate it is by texting me from the other room asking if " mistress wants anything "

I don't believe it is part of his mental illness but more a case of when his mood is turning it influences what he wants sexually. In the same way that in certain times during my monthly cycle I just want wham bam thank you Mame I not interested in being tender or foreplay.

As for your childhood influencing your sexual preference I think that's also fairly standard; I find sexual images of women a turn on and especially girl on girl pornography but have no desire to be intimate with a woman on any level. I believe it to be a learn association that naked woman equal sexual arousal. After all the modern world is full of advertising, magazine covers and TV saying as much.

I can answer definitively, "no," and "no." I think there's a tagline of, "safe, sane, and consensual" somewhere to describe it and distance it from other things.

If you are wondering if BDSM is the same as abuse, I would suggest researching what BDSM is and how it is different from abuse. Here's a trusted source's list of resources that you may or may not find useful: https://nelaonline.org/publications/links

Nope Nope Nope. I want hubby and I to get into some of it, hard with teenagers in the house.

Its a sexual preference. You think you might be more curious? I say learn what you can and go slow with it. Dont take the drivers or the other side slow.

BDSM is definitely not a mental illness.

It can be so good.

Since I was a teen I have had a sexual fetish for cross dressing that has caused both joy and sadness in my life. My current Wife did not know when we met that I crossdressed. She found out. Luckily for me She is understanding and proved to be creative in finding a way for us to do this together. Whatever your kink is the opportunity to experience it is valuable. For me it is two sided. Letting go and allowing someone else to "write the screenplay" is cathartic for me.
Having my partner "under my control" yet seeing the trust in her eyes makes me feel powerful, but also brings waves of love for her, all over me. Her submission is a gift not a given.

This is some of the problems with BDSM and bi polar.

It can be damaging to you and others if you engage in BDSM while in a hypomanic or manic state.

Never play with someone you don't know. Be wary of so called "Doms or, in your case I think Dommes? " who are looking to exploit people for money, and selfish sexual gratification. Im sure these so called true practitioners would say that a submissive should give themselves with no thought of their own needs or desires. I personally think Submissive or Dominant; it is essential to the experience if both parties benefit from the interaction.

When manic I personally will go from a Man/Husband with a fetish and a love for kink to this sexually depraved being who thinks looking for anonymous sex is an acceptable pastime. The effects and fallout from this kind of behavior can be devastating. This is an example of how BDSM can turn to self destructive behavior.

Good Luck, Don't rush into anything, learn from the community, Dominant or Submissive you still have control of your body and mind.

I have been into bdsm since childhood, like 11 years old *shame. Never got a boyfriend or my estranged husband to fully partake in the fetish with me, they usually started playfully with me and gave up 5 mins in saying how Im a hoot and switched to (regular) sex. I was diagnosed depressed not bipolar, but I can say that when I thought I had a partner who was interested in my fetishes I was as happy as a normal person.