How to seduct a man?

I'm pretty sure you won't regret it if you love him like you say. But, think about it, if you guys are really, truly in love, it should not be a push at all to get married, it should just be a formality. I know it's hard, you're very eager to have sex also, it is so difficult to keep that at bay. I was a virgin until 23, and it's extremely hard to not want to do it. But, that's the thing. At 21 I felt like you did and I wanted it so bad, and I was in love with a girl too, and I wanted her to take my virginity. But, things change, they really do. Now, I'm 25, and I think so much differently about things. OK, I've been through some heartbreaking stuff but it doesn't matter, my core person has changed. I'm just so scared for your part that you are so sure you are in love with him now and then when you get to 25 or so (my age) you feel different, and then you gave yourself to him and you regret breaking your virginity. I also believed I would never regret losing it, but you do, trust me. And, once it's gone you can never get it back. I know you've heard that a million times before, but once you do lose it, you really really really and truly understand what it means to lose something you can never get back, and that feeling sucks a lot, especially when you thought you were doing everything right. Please just think about it. Maybe try to think of your guy also being more human. Maybe you are seeing him to highly like he is sooooo good, and you don't realize he is just a man, with problems and faults like everyone else. I know my words probably wont take any effect on you now, because you are maybe too much in love with him, but I would cry and feel so bad if you have to feel what I do today, the regrets and things. Please be careful and take care .

I can understand you. Im sorry you felt that way.
Year ago I didnt regret even making love with my workmate when we were drunk. I was angry I didnt sleep with boyfriend I had at those times. I kissed with unknown guys at parties. Ii hated my virginity.
And then one day I realised that its something special and something what I want to give the special man. And he is special.
He is not perfect, he have had conflicts too but noone is perfect. I would regret sex with anyone else, I would hate myself for not giving myself to him. There are guys who wants to have sex with me but I dont want them, I want only him because I love him.
Many people wants to give their virginity to special person, me too. I would never regret it.

Lunatic Soul, is this 'friend' your therapist (based on some other threads)?

What I really would like to know is ... Why not actually DATE him .. become a couple, you know kiss hold hands be romantic..

You mention making love to a coworker ??? But talk about giving your virginity to him ... are you a virgin or not? Not that it really matters.

This is very confusing

If you want to be with this man in anyway you need to TELL him how you feel.. Plain and simple.

Hi Lunatic Soul

I don't want to offend but feel a need to ask out of concern and no judgement so here goes

Your posts in this thread all seem very intense, hyper, almost at crisis point/manic ( based upon experience of unwell friends text messages) are you ok ?

No, he isnt my T.
Yes Im bad and dream about my T too esspecially when my friend is so cold and my T seems interested in my sexual fantasies.

With making love I meant kissing in bed but without real sex. I am virgin.
Im afraid to lose him as a friend so I thought that it would be better to make him want me to kiss not do it first because Im afraid of rejection and losing him.
Friendship can be over when some of friends fall in love but another one didnt.
I think it would be more natural just do something that makes him want to touch me maybe Im wrong.

I didnt get what you mean.
Am I manic? Why do you think so?
It can be, im suffering from bipolar disorder and taking meds.

Dear lunatic soul,

there are more important things then seducing a man to interest him. Why not show him how mature you really are. Show him qualities you would have as a wife. Work with the children at church, help in the kitchen, be the best person you can be, help where you can and let your natural womanly abilities be what draws him to you. Men are fairly easy to catch with sex, (no offence guys) but you want him to come to you and want you and if he is religious then you want him to seek you for wife making qualities. The bible speaks of seductresses and it never ends well. Instead be a woman he would want.
Good Luck,
Big Mama

If things could be so easy... He knows me very well, we are friends for years.
Im crazy, Im suffering from bipolar disorder, I abused drugs and tried to kill myself and he knows it, almost everyone knows it, its impossible to hide it from friends.
You are right, I try to be better but I cant erace the past.
If Im honest I dont believe he would marry me. Im impatient and want him now. I know that problem is in me and I know that you are right but I dont want to wait for him forever. I dont want another girl seduces him because I did nothing.

I regret I told about my situation. I just wanted suggestions how to seduce a man how to act to make him want me, some tehnics. But okay it seems I have to act like b****

You seem to be incredibly intense when describing your feelings but for my other half he has been advised that if those intense feelings are consistent for 5 days then they are his true feelings but if they vary depending on other things such as having a positive response to something he has made or a disagreement with someone then his intensity is an emotional reaction to his situation.

If it is love you feel for this man, then maybe ask for advice on how to initiate a courtship which may lead to sexually intimacy that will be guilt free for both parties.

The suggestion of seducing an unwilling partner no matter what the situation has caused a reaction because seduction suggests a sexual motive which is not always connected to emotional well being. I myself have had multiple sexual partners but only been in love with one, I have however had strong friendship with one or two meaning I cared about their wellbeing and would have hated if our actions had hurt them.

If you feel for this man show him and learn to respect that despite your feelings about his choices you can allow him his beliefs. Because something doesn't make a sense to you it does not make it wrong. (He may have had sex before but has made a decision that he no longer believes that it is the correct thing for him make peace with his choice)

People aren't being unkind they want you to have a positive experience if we told you to dye your hair blue and moo like a cow to seduce a man and it works but rejects you and you get physically or emotional harmed we would have failed to be the safe and supporting community that PC is set up to be.

We care for you that's why we offer alternative options

I decided to ask my another friend who also is man what to do.
He said I need to show no interese in him and maybe meet with another guy. He said its mistake that I say what I feel for him.
Maybe he is right.
Im desperete that I have noone to talk about it because all my friends are so perfect. Okay I have a T to talk about it but I will see him after more than two weeks. I feel desperate.

My hair are blue lol.
Yes i already understood that i have to ask for help in another paces not here.

Why not try getting a forum going for people like yourself face issues regarding virginity, you can't be the only one facing such intense reactions

If you dont want to help me okay... I will watch some videos and read somethingin internet. Information about sex is a lot. I have no another way out.

I disagree with your friend. What he suggests is the type of thing a man would do if he wanted to seduce a woman. If this is what you really want then go for a kiss. He'll either allow it or back off and then you at least get your answer.

I was searching suggestions on internet and there also were mentined this.
He knows I want him so its not interesting maybe. I dont want to attack him, I want to make him act first or just see that he wants it. My anxiety ruins everything.

No, you're confusing how a woman thinks in that situation. If a man wants a woman too much it comes across as desperate and it turns her off, with men it's a bit different.