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Feb 22, 2007 at 10:21 PM
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So, I'm doing it- posting a sex question... I haven't seen many, if any, on here so bare with me.
I sometimes wonder if it is normal that couples fall into a habit of not having sex all that often. And what is often? Or a healthy amount? The people that I discuss this with are friends (who are in much newer relationships and doing it much more often) or friends/family with babies (who barely have time to do it!). I have been with my husband for 10 years (since senior year of high school), married for 2 1/2 years. It just seems like we both are often "tired" or just want to cuddle- which don't get me wrong, I often enjoy as much (or more!). Anyways, I don't like the idea of being stuck in a rut and I enjoy being looked at as a sexual being, it is just hard sometimes. So, I'll just come out and ask... 2-3 times a week, no kids, plenty of free time, is that in the realm of a healthy sex life? I know we shouldn't compare to others or think in terms of what we "SHOULD" do, but I'm just curious. I hope this isn't innapropriate... |
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Feb 22, 2007 at 10:25 PM
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you also might want to ask this in the sexual issues forum. good question. I too am in a 10 yr relationship going thru the same thing. but no where near 2 or 3 times a week
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Feb 22, 2007 at 10:25 PM
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YES.... it is (and) it is considered normal after the passion of new love starts to wind down.
What is normal? - well that is hard to say for every ones needs are so different..... for me and after 20 years of marriage once or twice a week is normal. LoVe, Rhapsody - P.S. Did you know that there is a SEX THREAD on this FORUM now? |
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Feb 22, 2007 at 10:27 PM
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I didn't know there was a sexual issues forum here- sorry all!
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Feb 22, 2007 at 10:29 PM
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tiodlliwi said: I didn't know there was a sexual issues forum here- sorry all! </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> No Problem........ just PM a MOD and ask them to move it to the correct location for YOU..... since you did not know. LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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Feb 22, 2007 at 11:01 PM
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I have no idea what that even means...
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Feb 22, 2007 at 11:29 PM
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i'd say 2-3 times a week is good....
my husband and i have been together for 10 years, married for 3-1/2 and we're more like 2 sometimes 3 times a month!! i think that mostly has to do with my depression and incredibly low self esteem... |
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Feb 26, 2007 at 10:08 AM
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i find alot of answers on the i village web site or red book and yes they are chic sites
 i hope you find the answers to you questions and alot more. some of there stuff is really good.
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Feb 26, 2007 at 11:28 AM
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ivillage is excellent!!!!! I have found so many hints and tips as far as sex and dating and men and stuff go.....even though it is a chic site, I think it would be beneficial to men too. Just an example of what I found there, and I'm gonna try not to be graphic......I just typed in something like "tips for being better in bed" or something like that. So you can type in "tips for getting the heat back". I had forgotten ivillage. Thanks for mentioning that!
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Feb 26, 2007 at 02:18 PM
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People have different sex drives. I for one am a cold fish. My bf of 7 years would be happy to do it everyday, but I will maybe be in the mood once a week or even less... There is no normal or abnormal, only what works for you. When we go away for weekends, it's a whole different story, then we take every chance we can get. But at home, not so often... once a week if he is lucky...
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Feb 27, 2007 at 12:04 AM
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Sorry, I don't have a reference... But I've heard that twice a week is average for people who have been married for a while. That means some people do it considerably more and other people do it considerably less, but twice a week is average.
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Mar 18, 2007 at 02:10 PM
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im glad somebody actually went to i village. its to bad they moved this post . i myself would never go to a gender confused area of this site im not and sex is very important of relationships i mean without it few relationships would last. i understand tho at one time the great red spot of jupiter was banned from high school text books because some lady in texas said it looked like a vagina . im not worried it sounds like everybody there plans on dieing of a sexually transmitted cancer in the name the name of jesus.
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