So how old were you when you first started having sexual feelings?

Ur not alone it was the same for me. Before school age and my parents would scold me and even beat me for it. I did it everyday as much as possible. All the way up to college. Then I just got really wasted with a bunch of military horny guys. I put myself in really bad positions which allowed really bad things to happen and I'm a lesbian.

I tried so hard not to be. I just wanted to once in my life fit in and I instead became a statistic. Now a days I wish I was out then, I could have had a lot more fun.

It's hard to say I can remember when I briefly saw a girl topless on a Florida beach when I was about 10 and liking it, and also remember watching the scrambled porn channel at my grandparent's house (had to watch it there since we didn't have it at my house) probably a year or 2 later so probably about than.

But I can also tell you that I didn't start Masturbating on a regular basis until much much later.

Wow, most ppl I've talked to about this makes me feel atypical. Hit puberty @ 12 and had no conception of sexuality before (raised in a Mormon home). For the first week, I had constant erections so mostly just focused on this new found pleasure I didn't understand. Then I realized that guys were what caused my arousal and that's it. Pretty boring and straight forward.

You know ... boring is good.

I remember when I was about that age getting hard-ons all the time and wondering why they were happening.

The WORST were the unsolicited ones during school or church. LMAO I would freak OUT cuz I wasn't even thinking about anything sexual nor was there any stimuli around that triggered it. It was just suddenly... oh, hello there! And of course I had nightmares that something would happen that would require me to stand up and everyone would see it. Don't miss being an awkward teenager.

I was raised in a strict christian home. My parents didn't talk about sex to me or my siblings. All they said to me was sex was for the woman I would marry. I wasn't allowed to have any sexual thoughts because they thought it was a sin. Including having crushes and/or looking at a girl because I would be having optical intercourse with her.They kept me and my siblings on a tight leash. They also told me all sorts of things to keep me pure. I didn't really notice that I had a sexual drive until I became an adult. And even then I felt guilty.

A girl who lived across the road from us always played with me and hung out. We were around 11 or 12 and we would turn off the lights in the house at night time and play hide and seek and when we would find each other she would lay on the floor in her skirt and cotton leggings and I would lay on top of her bottom and we would just lay there and I remember myself getting hard and we would kiss but nothing more, it sounds silly but we drifted apart over the years, she moved town but we were so close at that age.

I remember I had sexual impulses as a toddler in kindergarten (I would have been 4). There was this girl who I was "close" to, and on occasion I would be driven like a moth to a flame by this incredibly powerful impulse to hug her as tight as possible. I imagine she was very confused (as was I since I didn't really understand what I was doing or what to do). I can recall there was definitely a sense of frustration coupled up with all that other emotion since I was clearly looking for some outlet for these infantile sexual feelings, but didn't know how to obtain it.

I find this very bizarre. First off, because in my experience puberty is a process not a moment in time. Girls have their first period but boys don't have a similar event to compare it to. I for one had many erections (which I didn't really understand as arousal) long before I developed any pubic hair. I started masturbating (first rubbing on things, later jacking off) around 11.

One reason that would explain why you felt you had to have sex in order to gain love and acceptance from men would be tv and movies. A few examples would be fast times at ridgemont high(FTRH) and all the right moves (ATRM). FTRH opens up with girls at work in the mall discussing sex. An older girl (17yo) tells the younger girl (14yo) that in order for a 21 year old man to take her out on a date she must go and have sex with him, which happens. Later on the younger girl tells the older girl how much the sex hurt and the older girl informs he that it gets better and better and she must keep doing it or boys/men will not want to go out with her. The second example ATRM is a movie abut a high school football player and the relationship he has with his girlfriend. Early in the film, after a big game he is out with his girl in the car and he keeps pushing to go further sexually with his girlfriend till he pushes her to the point where she is no longer comfortable. He gets enraged and aggressive towards the girl. She has the look of extreme fear on her face. However, what she is afraid of is him leaving her for he unwillingness to have sex with the man. You see the media has put out messages in America that sex is required out of a woman in order for them to be accepted by men. These movies are just two I could come up with off the top of my head. I am a male and I too fell into this pit. I believed that this was acceptable and indeed at one point felt this to be the way things were and should be. I passed up lots of opportunities to have beautiful relationships with mental and spiritual meaning because of a lack of sexual involvement. I am 31 and I know after 3 long term relationships built on the misguided beliefs of "sex in excess" that sex is a small component of a relationship. Sex is of course a means of reproduction, but it is also a way to be intimate with your special partner, draw two people closer in a way that is unique and special that no others get to partake in with you. We grew up in a time where moral values and intimacy were horribly misguided.

My mother and father were very open people when I was a child. Not so much anymore. I was born in the early 80s so my parents were the turn hippies, the babies of the boomers. My parents were alive and kicking during the "sexual revolution". I have a vivid memory of myself asking my parents where do babies come from at 4 years old. And my flower child mom pulled out a 300 level college text book on sexual education and psychology that she had for her own knowledge and began teaching me from this book. By the end of the lesson I had learned that not all men had the same shaped penis and that not all women's breast looked the same. But, most importantly, I knew in detail where babies came from. She saw that the college text book was above my capacity at 4 years old and the next day I received a book called the truth about sex. This book I referred to a lot as I grew up and absolutely showed all my friends. This book discussed puberty, body development, sexual abuse, masturbation, sexual relationships, teen pregnancy and its consequences, as well as planned pregnancy. A really good book for any young person with questions. My mother read this book to me when I was not able to myself. Question: What do you want to do once you have taken drivers education? Drive, right. So once I received my sexual education I wanted to have sex. I did not pursue it actively as a teenage boy all day everyday, but I would find myself on play dates and through conversation I would ask girls to attempt sexual acts with me. All we ever did was lay on top of each other. The mechanics of sex were still not fully clear. I made attempts a lot growing up. 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 all with no success. Each attempt at sex was not pre planned, just opportunities that came up, being alone in a room unsupervised. About 10 years old I actually began masturbation and had my first fluid producing orgasm at 11 years old. About 12 is when girls got there full sexual education and the fear of pregnancy was installed in them. That is when the opportunities I spoke of were no more. Which was for the best. People that young do not need to have sex. It distorts their ideas of what is love and what is not. I think a lot of people practiced sex as children until they became more mature and realized that sex is not something you just do with anybody anytime.

Reading y'all responses to this thread makes me feel a little less like a freak, but still alone. For me it started at 4. I remember one day watching something about the Jackson 5 and thinking that young Michael Jackson was cute. Then the next thing I know I felt something down there. I had no idea what was going on, but I knew it wasn't something anyone else was suppose to know. The feeling continued and led to sex dreams. In the dreams I was an adult standing in a field with my boyfriend. Next thing I know I'm looking at the sky and I had a good, but strange feeling. I didn't tell anyone that this was happening because I felt bad and ashamed. I never heard my friends talk about anything like that, so I thought it was a bad thing. One night when I was 5, I woke up and wanted to watch cartoons. Back in the 80's there were no 24 hour cartoon station. I was flipping through the channels and came across Cinemax. There was a dirty movie on. I got that strange feeling down there and liked what I saw. After that I woke up just about every night to watch Cinemax. By the time I was 6 I had desires to copy what I was seeing in the movies and that scared me so much that I didn't want to be around any male of any age without a woman around. I was afraid of what I might try to do. The feelings kept getting stronger and the dreams more detailed. My mother had "the talk" with me when I was 12. The dreams finally stopped, the desire went a way, and the constant strange feeling started to decrease. It all came back at 16 when I got my first boyfriend. I lost my virginity at 21. When I was 12 I had decided to wait for marriage, but once I realized that my now husband was the one I gave him my virginity. I masturbated for the first time at the age of 12. I discovered it by accident one day while playing in my covers.

I started masturbating around age 5 or 6. I had absolutely no idea it was masturbation (or anything sexual) until my teens - even though I got the sex talk around age 10 (strange, apparently. Once in a while online I'll find threads like this and I'm always surprised how many people's parents never talked to them about sex. My mom explained it to me and recall being disgusted), somehow what I was doing never registered as sexual. I would just keep rubbing with some bunched up blankets until I felt a certain release. It's usually been to certain types of fantasies - more like mental videos not involving myself but always involving certain kinds of situations I guess I have a fetish for.

Oh, and sometimes I'll wake up horny around 4am or so. No real reason. I"ve never looked at porn either; never had the interest.

I've only had sexual feelings for a few actual people. I tried cybersex with someone (who I really liked, too!) and got bored halfway through. I'm just now (age 22) starting to really register people as attractive. Outside of my mind though, I tend to find the idea of actual sex disgusting. Most of the time it just isn't on my radar, at all. I'm more likely to imagine cuddling up to someone than f!ing them.

13/14. But several of my peers had feelings at 11 and acted like horny. May be even before that. Not sure if they were really horny or just acting out.

I really don't....all my emotions and feelings has been fragmented to other alters. We have fems and males and a lot of alters of which a few jobs are just sex. We are all over the gender spectrum. They are very sexual Others, but I know the fem emerged when we was about 7. The guys were created later.

I don't know about myself, but I do remember my son, about age 3-4 being under the covers as I read to him at night saying "Mom, don't look under the covers", I noticed a rhythmic movement, and asked "Why?" and he said "I don't know. Just don't look under the covers." And I didn't.

I think I was about 4 when I started masturbating. It was on a daily basis. I had sex when I was 15. After that it was just one guy after another until I got married at 17.

I remember masturbating very young too, maybe 5 or 6. As I got older I got into my Dad's magazines and his porn. I lost my virginity at 14 and was very active in my teen years.

When I was 5, I was sent to a Boys and Girls Club for my swimming lessons. While swimming underwater in a crowded pool, some grabbed my p**** and really had a go at it--it seemed like a strange sensation indeed and I swam to the side and got out. Didn't feel traumatized and really wasn't that sexual until middle school. Though in third grade, there was a boy, we liked each other platonically because we were very competitive on a daily basis in school (the top students in class trying to outdo each other-ie who can finish their test first, read the most books, etc.). I would ride my bike way across my neighborhood without my mom's knowledge. At his house, we would take turns tying each other with a rope and seeing if we could escape each others various creative ways of tying each other up. It didn't feel sexual, but it did feel exciting. I think we shared a lot of excitement together--whether he tyed me up or I was working as fast as I could to finish my assignment before he did--he made my adrenaline surge in a way that felt great!

This question made me think about things. I was molested by two slightly older girls when I was six. They were sisters and were seven and nine at the time. I was a willing participant. It lasted for for several months and involved fingering and oral.

When I was twelve, the older girl had sex with me at her house. It was over pretty quickly. The freaky thing is that her mum was in the next room and I am sure she knew what happened.

Prior to that, I started masturbated around nine or ten and had my first orgasm when I was eleven. I was very preoccupied with sexual thoughts and masturbated often.

In spite of all that, I didn't have sex again until I was twenty.