Unwanted erections at 34

I am a 34 year old man writing out of sheer frustration because I suffer badly from this problem. It's all very well when you're 17 but it's mortifying and frustrating at this age. I worry about it all the time. It does happen to men our age, but there is nobody to talk to about it and I am getting so down - truly upset and frustrated about it. I still suffer with persistent unwanted erections on a pretty much daily basis-yes, thinking about sex / being around attractive women etc doesn't help, but I often get them for no reason at all. I get nervous in the summer about it and always worry about it on beaches etc. I have taken to wearing tight briefs under my work trousers to hide it which can be uncomfortable and irritating. Ex-girlfriends have been very mixed in how understanding they've been about this issue. Currently Im single again and this can and does accentuate it. I get very down about it - It's just, at 34, I truly thought that this would no longer be such a problem. Some days are fine, most days are problematic but many days are just unbearable with hourly erections that are just a total pain. I just wanted to ask am I alone here, and has anybody ever managed to find a solution or 'magic pill' to stop it. Advise needed and please, no jokers. I heard that there is a mens forum on here and wanted to post this in there but wasn't able to find it - if anyone can send the link to that I'd really appreciate it. Thank you.

Somebody has written about it, but I do not remember the keywords that would retrieve the thread... it has definitely been mentioned, and more than once. Since you are in London and not in the middle of nowhere (an American expression but you get the gist anyway), why have you not told you physician about it? The primary care physician or whatever the name for the main doctor through the NHS should at least know about the problem - if he or she cannot address it, they will refer you and maybe do some tests. Painful and overly long erections are a medical concern.

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You might be able to go on an antidepressant. Some of them cause you to have less of a sex drive. I would definitely talk to your doctor about it.

I'm sorry you are having this issue. Honestly, I've noticed men with erections before and I just ignore it.