[exon]

Hello everybody, last year I was introduced to a woman who is in her late 20’s, like me. We got along really well as she was very kind, cheerful and intelligent, as well. I also learned that she loves animals, has multiple pets and works occasionally as a fashion model which allows her to travel to a lot of different countries. I also found out that she has her own website and blog. She does not blog much, but one entry caught my attention. It is a very detailed and well-written entry about one of her family-members fighting cancer a few months ago. It’s very personal and touching and it seems like she has a very close bond to her family and is overall a normal, intelligent and caring woman. Sounds awesome, right ? Now for the weird part. I wanted to add her on Facebook and what I saw on her profile was utterly strange. She almost exclusively posts images which show her modelling, which sounds like nothing special, but most of her images, while not exactly pornographic or fetishistic, are obviously intended to be erotic, as she either poses in lingerie or wears other clothes which underline her “erotic features” (naked shoulders, cleavage). The images look like something a woman would take as a naughty surprise for her boyfriend, but she posts most of them publicly for everyone to see. Her images are getting commented on by lots of guys who, more or less in a roundabout way, tell her that she turns them on and that they’d like to have sex with her (these are also public for everyone to read). She is by no means offended by these comments and while not directly encouraging them to write nasty things, she “likes” all comments, and oftentimes expresses feeling flattered by them, giving symbolic hugs and kisses to her “admirers”, even when people write utterly obscene things (“Please show your hot legs more often.” / “You’re such a slut, please post more stuff like that. “ / “You make your fans’ pants burst, that’s why we always take ours off, beforehand.”) She also does not at all seem to be worried of being called out on this by her family and friends. Call me “prude”, but I find this seriously abnormal. And now for the “best” part. At one point she mentioned that she might start obtaining a PhD… in Psychology. Am I the only one to find this… frightening ? I know who should become her first patient. I don’t want to be rude, but she was definitely dropped on her head as a baby if you ask me. She’s like a police-officer who smokes pot in public. The comparison is off, but you know what I’m trying to say. What’s your take on this ? Have a nice day, everybody Exon

[Mental reward]

I wasn't going to respond to this but I can't help myself. So are the images taken by a photographer(for modeling)? I ask because semi nude selfies, well that just brings it to whole other level. And is she an alt model? It's probably the type of modeling she is doing as to her 'liking' the attention from said deuchbags. Obviously she enjoys the attention to some degree. It does raise an eyebrow as far as behavior goes. It's also not surprising actually the PhD in Psychology, to me. It sounds like she's experienced in ways of manipulation. Just from most of the stuff you mentioned. It also sounds like there are a lot of gaps in the/her story. Mainly, are you interested in her? Or want to start a relationship but are freaked out by the FB stuff? If that's the case, than yeah, it all sounds shady. Lots.

[~Christina]

I don't see anything wrong with her posting any pictures she chooses to nor does her wanting a PhD in psychology out of reach. I'm certain that many professionals of all kinds are very okay with there sexuality and are proud of there bodies and have wonderful self esteem and has many pictures posted where they want too. It's a personal choice. There isn't anything wrong with this. People are going to comment on her pictures and shes going to click "like" if she wants to and respond. If you do not like seeing her and the responses she gets , well ... Don't go looking at "her" page.

Women have come a long way in being able to express ourselves and she is comfortable doing so. Being dropped on her head as a baby? I find that insulting.

Were/are you wanting to date her? Unless your going to be okay with her choice of living her life , well then shes not the woman for you. Go out and find one that fits into your "ideal woman"

[Trippin2.0]

Sounds like her FB page doubles as an advertisement for her modelling work...

Dropped on her head as a baby? I don't find anything brain damage worthy in her actions, she's just different to you, different to what you wanted and expected, not damaged.

Also nothing fishy about her avenue of studies, maybe she's so comfortable with her sexuality because she understands and accepts herself...
Maybe her studies helped her reach that point, maybe its exactly why she doesn't allow any obscene comments to offend her.

I don't see how the policeman analogy applies to her at all, what has her sexuality got to do with her ability to be a therapist?

It's ok if you don't like what you see, it's ok if her FB page made you change your mind about her, but its not ok to pass judgment on something you clearly have no understanding of.

For all you know its just a publicity stunt and you're worked up over nothing, only way to be sure and to make up you mind in a fair and objective manner is to ask her what is up with her FB page.

[A Red Panda]

If she models and has photographs taken of her - well, they're going to be posted somewhere publicly anyway so why not show the people you have as a friend? There's nothing wrong with that at all.

And, as she is NOT currently a therapist, psychologist, or counsellor of any sort, there's absolutely nothing at all wrong about her posting photos like that. It doesn't even reflect what she plans to do with her page if she does pursue the PhD. For all you know, she might plan on making things private once she begins a practice. Or make her name unsearchable, or have a pseudonym online. You can't read her mind or know her plans.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with her, and while it may not be to your tastes, it's absolutely disrespectful to say that she had to have been dropped on her head!

I'm not sure if you wanted to just be friends with her or if you were interesting in pursuing a relationship with her, but she's still the same person that you were already getting to know. She just also has a high degree of confidence in her body and ability to handle sexualized comments directed at it.

[exon]

Hey everybody,

Thanks for commenting.

First of all, I don’t want to start a relationship with her. I just found her very nice, that’s all.
Being sexually confident (knowing what you want / having a good sex life) is great and healthy, of course. But I think that’s something completely different. Most men, when they see a woman they find sexy, do not walk up to her saying:”You’re such a hot b***h, I’d really like to f**k you.” And the reason they don’t is not that they lack sexual confidence, but because this behavior would lead “normal” women to slap them in the face or at least call them perverts and turn away in disgust. Are all these women sexually insecure or would you describe them as normal and sane? I think the latter is the case.

You see, that’s why I think that there’s something wrong with her. And I think it’s strange when someone like that becomes a psychologist. Of course what she does is up to her and not against the law, but she just seems twisted somehow. That’s what I was trying to say. I did not want to be rude. But I’d be utterly worried if I had a daughter who behaved like she does and I cannot imagine her parents considering her behavior to be normal.

Best Regards

Exon

[A Red Panda]

You are thinking in extremely black and white terms.

There is nothing wrong with her responding like that to men.
There is also nothing wrong with women telling men off for those sorts of comments.
There is nothing wrong with a woman enjoying those sorts of comments/attention.
There is nothing wrong with a woman not likely those sorts of comments/attention.

Take a look at the language you've used about her:
"I think that there's something wrong with her."
"I think it's strange when someone like that.."
"she just seems twisted somehow"

All of those show a huge amount of judgement, and they're also solely your opinions. You don't have to like how she chooses to present herself, but it doesn't really sound like a very healthy reaction to it. You've chosen to fixate on your perception of her for what purpose? You can either remain friends with her or not, that's your perogative.