Confused. How do i?

I just going to start but saying that i have nothing against homosexuality. Personally tho i don't want to be is there anyway to.. outgrow being bi or forcing it out of yourself? I mean no offense to anyone its just personally.

I have read of supposed therapies. In some states (New Jersey and California for example) it's illegal to force your kids to go to those those Gay Conversion therapies.

I'm not going to link to any of them because I find them reprehensible. In my opinion, it would be much healthier and safer to work with a therapist to come to grips with who you are rather than try to change that aspect of yourself.

Thanks for replying but i don't want to come to terms with that. I without a doubt want to change it. I've already lost half my family because of family issues there is no way i'm chancing losing the family i do have left. I'm suppose to like boys not girls. So if anyone knows of treatments or therapies in Canada to outgrow this it would be much appreciated.

Much like Webgoji, I don't believe in those therapy methods. And perhaps my response may not help you, but I've always believed that we are born with our sexuality. Personally I'm bisexual...my first sexual experience was homosexual and I've been in a monogamous heterosexual marriage for almost two decades.

I've done some basic questionning of myself...I've asked myself why do I have to like guys sexually when I love my wife and kids. Even if I force myself to not consider gay sex, the first moment I see a naked guy or two guys kissing, my heart starts to race and I get sexually aroused. I didn't choose to have that happen, I truly believe it's biological.

My point is that although I AM bisexual, and that I am strongly attracted sexually to other men, I have chosen to live in a heterosexual lifestyle. I have chosen not to seek out gay sex, I have chosen not to take part in LGBT activities, I have chosen to limit my sexual activities to heterosexual acts. Is part of me gay? Yes. Do I hope at some point that I can live a "bisexual" life? Yes.

My point is that biology aside, you have the ability to choose how you act. If you were lactose intolerant, you can choose to drink alternative products. You may not like that they don't taste as good or cost more, but you can choose. As for you sexuality, you may not like boys, but you can choose to have a relationship with them. So if you are worried about losing your family, then choose to have a relationship with a man.

I hope this helps.

There is no cure if it was then no one would be gay it's not a choice !
The only way for you to deal with is to be absence .

Like bixkf said, it's possible to only date/have sex with/have relationship with people who are not your gender. If you want to not "be bi", I think that's the best advice I can offer you. From everything I've hard from others and have experienced as a person who is not straight, it's basically impossible to "stop" yourself from being gay or bi. It's also really, really harmful for people to try to force it out of themselves - it leads to hating yourself at MINIMUM, and I've heard that "conversion therapy" to try to be straight can be incredibly traumatic.

I know this isn't the answer you want to hear, but I want to suggest trying to come to terms with the *fact* that you are attracted to girls. Like someone else here said, you don't have to *act* on these feelings even if you have them... but if you can bring yourself to have less internal conflict, it may be easier to live with them and maintain a "heterosexual" lifestyle if that's what you choose to do.

I hope you're able to find peace, regardless of what route you take. It's really difficult struggling with a part of yourself you feel the need to change - I've been there, myself.

Look at it this way, you are lucky to be bi, what if you had zero attraction boys? I, like bixkf, am bisexual but have been in a monogamous relationship with my wife for 17 years.
I am still bisexual, that will never change. I am comfortable with that, you can be too. You just have to decide to be ok with that attraction. Nobody needs to know you are attracted to girls as well. What the family doesn't know won't hurt them.
And forget trying to change, it won't happen.

Thank you everyone for your comments. And i wish i could accept it but i can't. Especially since i've had very very strong feelings for one of my girl best friends for 8 years and i NEED to get over it. She can't find out and i don't want to hurt everyday anymore. And to the comment that the conversion therapy can be painful i'd be willing to put up with some pain to change.

The only way she will find out is if you tell her . So there is no way of her ever knowing ..

Or is she notices. Either way i need to stop feeling things like this. Any suggestions or i'll have to figure something out myself.

The only way is for you to drop her as a friend and don't see or talk to her again .
The old saying ... Out of sight out of mind

I could never do that she's been one of my best friends for 15-16 years. I looked into aversion therapy where you train your brain if it thinks of something it will get hurt. Sounds like it might work. So thanks for everyones idea but i got it covered.

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Whoa!!!. I'm not gay but if i was i think i would be very hurt and insulted by that. We are what we are. Being gay or bi isn't a disorder. You don't need a 'cure'.

as I said ... It's not a choice !

Good luck?