want to be woman, where as I am a man

Hi , I am a normal man, wanting to be a woman, ( I admire women, for their inner as well as outer beauty.) How to come out of this problem. or How to become woman. Regards.

hi crazyfellow
what you want is very common these days. i use the word crazy very loosely in referring to myself so i am hoping you are too because you are not crazy for wanting what you want. you can get what you want simply by just beginning to live your life as a woman and see how it fits you. therapy is an important step in the adjustment process. to fully become a woman is a long expensive extensive process from what i understand. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

hi welcome to Psych Central. It can also be expressed by being a more sensitive person. It is a long process to physically be changed to a woman's body and very expensive too.

Some people find they can get a lift towards being a woman by expressing some of the woman's natural traits like nurturing, compassion, and sensitivity. If that is what somebody really wants, to express those traits, then a body change will not do that. I would not be in a hurry to act on physical changes too quickly. Some people change their identity by how they treat other people. That could be enough.

Warning, people that relate to you as a man or masculine qualities could run away if they find out you think of yourself as a woman. That is why the virtual role change has advantages.

Here is an idea for a complete role makeover, although you might have to change your Psych Central name. What about being womanly and sensitive and compassionate here on Psych Central. You might find that even a virtual makeover will lessen the outer pressure to change the outside. Just an idea. I would try that before trying to change the outside. People are compassionate and accepting here and would accept you in whatever way you present yourself.

And you can still keep your outer identity in place for the time being.

Crazyfellow,
Your feelings are likely more common that most people admit to. There are a lot of things to admire about women. I too find just about everything about women to be attractive, and I don't really mean just in the sense of appearances. When I see a beautiful woman I find myself a bit jealous that she was lucky enough to be a woman.

I felt for many years that I would have done better in my life as a woman. My personality and demeanor is closer to that of a woman...my sexuality (as bisexual) is much more accepted for women than men, and I truly find women's clothing (from lingerie to dresses) amazing. But I am satisfied enough with being a man that I see no reason to become a woman, let alone act or dress as one.

Now I know that not everyone is the same, so like CANDC and kaliope have recommended you need to find where the balance in being the "real you" is. Many people have written about their experiences transitioning, some good, some bad...but in all cases...long. I think we can all agree that one can't just wake up one Monday morning and say I'd rather be a women and by the end of the week be one physically. I like CANDC's idea of starting by expressing women's traits...something you can do without seeing a doctor, or dressing as a women, or even leaving your home. If you feel comfortable with that over a long period, then perhaps you can do more.

Ultimately you should look into finding a therapist which deals with gender identify to help to understand your feelings and guide you through the potential changes in your life.

Like I said before, you need to find the balance in your life. For me it's just accepting that life could have been better as a woman, but for you it could be anywhere along the spectrum from denial to complete transition/transformation.

Good luck and be safe.