[jennie]

<ul type="square">[*]How important is sexuality?[*]Is sexual identity important? [*]Is sex a priority?[*]Can a person be whole without sex? [*]Monogamy or non-monogamy more natural to you? [*]Does masturbation suffice?[*]Marriage or civil unions ideal?[/list]
I have past sexual trauma issues. I wrestled with these questions listed above for a while. Eventually, I decided to not worry about these things and to just be me. None of those questions are relevant to who I am. I'd say I have no sexual identity.

What do you think?

[Raynaadi]

The questions of sexuality and sexual identity for me in the poll are a bit ambiguous. For me, sexuality and sexuality are important in that its important to understand both as they pertain to myself only. For me, as long as I understand who I am and am ok with it, thats where the importance comes in. But I don't consider just one "type" of sexuality and sexual identity to be ideal....if that makes sense.

[Maven]

Sex means a lot to me, and I think it's abnormal to have no desire for sex. There are people who identify as asexual, and they're fine with it, and they even find mates who also identify as asexual, and if they're ok with it, that's fine with me, but I think they're abnormal. That said, I wouldn't try to "convert" them. I think, even if someone or something is abnormal, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, s/he should be free to live that way.

I think sex is a wonderful thing. I don't have a problem with people who have multiple partners, as long as they're honest with those partners, and don't think less of those persons. But for me, I prefer monogamy, at least in a relationship.

[Rhapsody]

Why SEX is important - - - - - To ALL:

SEX that is not wounded or damaged....... is meant to bond that of two hearts in love, to bring them together as one. That is why we have the physical (biological) capability to bond to whom ever we see ever during sexual relations, when experiencing an orgasm.

Food for Thought...... rule of thumb (always keep) Eyes WIDE Open!


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Perna]

I think sexuality just is, like "intelligence" or hazel eyes :-) I don't think it's a "choice" like the sex act can be. An intertwined twin is sensuality, "touch." We all need touch, cradle to grave in order to be whole/healthy. An infant will fail to thrive and literally die without it. It is all "there" whether we choose to express it a certain way or not, our sensuality and sexuality. Neither are the same as the sex act; that's an expression of sexuality, not sexuality itself.

[jennie]

Perna....what about sexuality expressed in terms of masculinity vs. femininity?

[jennie]

Raynaadi....you make complete sense.

The poll questions are vague.

I'll add..... I don't think it is important if an individual is straight, gay, bisexual, asexual, or whatever. Yet, I've heard many people state sexual identity was very important in a person's sense of self. Some people become sad when they aren't able to fulfill certain sexual identity roles. I'm unable to be empathetic because I don't understand. I wondered how people here view things.

[Rhapsody]

IMO -
I feel that SEX is important to us all - no matter what sex we are or if we prefer a different path to sexuality than the average man and woman being united in sexual intercourse...... and it is just an important to the lives of both the males and females a like.

HECK - it has to be important - for just think about it: it is the glue that keeps man-kind from going extinct.

Sex was created for both the male & the female to enjoy - and Sex was created for procreation as well as recreation.......

[Maven]

Well said, Rhapsody.

Although these days, we don't totally need sex (the act of sex) to keep from going extinct. There's artificial insemination and making babies in a petrie dish. Not nearly as much fun, though.

[Rhapsody]

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Well said, Rhapsody.

Although these days, we don't totally need sex (the act of sex) to keep from going extinct. There's artificial insemination and making babies in a petrie dish. Not nearly as much fun, though.

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I'll take a MAN over a PETRIE DISH any day..............

[seeker1950]

I feel totally asexual these days....and I have to admit I feel a sense of grief and loss about this.
Sexual relationships, even cloaked in "love," have resulted in such hurt and long recovery for me that I have chosen to negate that part of myself. I'm not depressed, not anxious, not wondering about the other's intentions or feelings, and thinking this may be a permanent choice for me from now on.

it's okay to feel that way. i've been there. perhaps things will change but if they don't, you're okay. we can take care of ourselves when we must...........love, pat

[Maven]

While lack of sexual drive can be psychological (and is treatable), you should also see a doctor if you're experiencing this. While you have viable reasons for feeling this way, you might have physical problems that are causing it, too.