I wrote a second letter to my mum today. I came out about a year ago as Transgender. She told me "well maybe you are just a very butch lesbian" which didnt help. Its been a real struggle with my family. My friends have all been so good to me, they have all been so respectful and supportive, using correct pronouns etc. I explained when I first came out to my mum that I wanted her to use male pronouns and her response was "well youre not a man yet, when/if you transition it will be easier for me to switch over" I guess my point is that its a bit of a head fk like at what point in her eyes will I become a man? Im planning on going for T and top surgery, but not bottom surgery so what will qualify me as becoming a man to her! I tried correcting her at first but it didnt go down well, so I kind of gave up thinking maybe I should just suck it up. Its just getting to me so much now, I have had gender dysphoria most of my life and its getting easier, but each time Im misgendered (not sure if thats the right word here) it brings it all rushing back.

So I wrote her this letter, if you could read it and let me know if it sounds ok? Or if I should hold off and just give her more time?

Mum,
I need to talk to you about something. I came out to you as transgender in spring 2014. I am trying to be patient with you because I know it is hard for you. Which is why I havent been correcting you when you misgender me by using female pronouns.
It really does bother me causing a lot of gender dysphoria but I have tried to suck it up somewhat.
I feel I need to tell you this because I think it is time that you tried it out.
I dont expect you to get it right 100% of the time, Id just like you to try. It would make me really happy and more comfortable in myself.
I know it is hard to accept, but I am your son.
I love you so much
RJ x

Thanks for taking the time to read this, I appreciate any advice or input on either if its ok or things I could change?

I think that this is a successful letter. You're understanding of the fact that it must be hard for her, but asking her if she would at least be willing to try. You're giving her the space to make mistakes without judging her and being really kind with her. However, at the same time I think you've gotten through how important this is for you. I think it's successful. I can't think of anything that you should add or take away. To the point yet gentle.

I agree with Thehours, I think your letter was well worded.

Thank you, I added on the back a little bit about gender dysphoria so that she can understand a little about what that may entail

[Phreak]

Love you honey. I understand that it's difficult for your mum, after all the years she's spent using female pronouns for you, all the way from when you were born up until last year that was correct, and it can be very hard to change.

*hugsss*