Feel worse after?

InfiniteSadness · May 18, 2015 at 08:47 PM

After handling buisness as a guy by myself- most of my mental symptoms increase- Anxiety/ocd/depress. And its pretty physically noticable, not like im imagining something. Makes no sense really

Webgoji · May 19, 2015 at 06:44 AM

For what it's worth, it does for me too. But I know the reason it does for me; it increases my feelings of rejection.

So maybe it's something like that? More relationship related than just simple hormonal/sexual?

MotownJohnny · May 19, 2015 at 03:16 PM

I would ask if it's related to your attitudes about it? A lot of people have a lot of learned cultural and social hang-ups about it, and that tends to create a guilt complex that can feed on itself.

So many people, male and female, have posted on here about guilt, anxiety, depression, etc. "after". When they elaborate, most of that comes from cultural/religious beliefs or social hang-ups (such as old attitudes in the US that were ultimately religiously based too).

Is that possibly the root of your concerns - the old "you're going to Hell, you're gonna go blind, your palms will grow hair" kind of stuff?

InfiniteSadness · May 19, 2015 at 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by MotownJohnny

I would ask if it's related to your attitudes about it? A lot of people have a lot of learned cultural and social hang-ups about it, and that tends to create a guilt complex that can feed on itself.

So many people, male and female, have posted on here about guilt, anxiety, depression, etc. "after". When they elaborate, most of that comes from cultural/religious beliefs or social hang-ups (such as old attitudes in the US that were ultimately religiously based too).

Is that possibly the root of your concerns - the old "you're going to Hell, you're gonna go blind, your palms will grow hair" kind of stuff?

No, i used to have that issue. Now its just physical anxiety/feel like crap. I dunno, embarassing to even talk about

Webgoji · May 20, 2015 at 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by InfiniteSadness

No, i used to have that issue. Now its just physical anxiety/feel like crap. I dunno, embarassing to even talk about

I kinda wonder if it might be somatic actually. Instead of the feelings being where you are aware of them, I wonder if they've been transferred to physical symptoms? I dunno, just something I've run into with my anxiety.

Theseus · Jun 05, 2015 at 12:18 PM

Cummer's remorse Urban Dictionary: cummer's remorse Not at all uncommon. It seems to be magnifying the already existing condition(s). Don't feed it or buy into it... masturbate and enjoy it, ejaculate and enjoy it, move on. Really, you have to not let the remorse or guilt bring the other conditions to the fore.

AppalachianAxis · Jun 05, 2015 at 12:27 PM

Not uncommon at at.
Just about every person on planet earth experiences this to some degree after orgasm.
Some simply stop being interested in sex, some feel a little down, some get weepy, some get angry, etc.

The more extremely negative reactions to orgasm are rare, but they do happen.

I for instance have a *violently* negative reaction to orgasm. Been that way all my life. No negative sexual experience, no abuse, no restricted household upbringing, religious influence, etc. This is just the way I've always been wired.

It sucks, but it's the card I drew.

Jan 02, 2016 at 03:29 AM

You'll go blind

No, but seriously it's common to feel regret from that. A lot of people do, and I remember that I also felt like that when I was younger. There is a certain cultural attitude of poking fun at it/negativity surrounding it that it's common for people to feel regret. There's no reason to though, because literally everyone does it. By everyone, I mean literally every single human being masturbates. It is literally something 100% of the population does, so there is no reason to feel guilty. It's as natural as going to take a leak.

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InfiniteSadness Grand Member Member Since Aug 2012 Location: USA Posts: 985 11 58 hugs given	May 18, 2015 at 08:47 PM #1 After handling buisness as a guy by myself- most of my mental symptoms increase- Anxiety/ocd/depress. And its pretty physically noticable, not like im imagining something. Makes no sense really
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Webgoji Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2013 Location: Wichita, Ks Posts: 3,535 10 993 hugs given	May 19, 2015 at 06:44 AM #2 For what it's worth, it does for me too. But I know the reason it does for me; it increases my feelings of rejection. So maybe it's something like that? More relationship related than just simple hormonal/sexual? __________________ Helping to create a kinder, gentler world by flinging poo.
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Theseus Member Member Since Jan 2014 Location: USA Posts: 164 10 4 hugs given	Jun 05, 2015 at 12:18 PM #6 Cummer's remorse Urban Dictionary: cummer's remorse Not at all uncommon. It seems to be magnifying the already existing condition(s). Don't feed it or buy into it... masturbate and enjoy it, ejaculate and enjoy it, move on. Really, you have to not let the remorse or guilt bring the other conditions to the fore.
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