A parents' image while masturbating?

lexxinski · May 25, 2015 at 04:40 PM

For the past couple of weeks I can't masturbate.

As soon as I start one of my parent's image pops up in my head.

Any advice on how to get rid of that?

CANDC · May 25, 2015 at 07:20 PM

lexxinski, welcome to psych central. Sorry to hear you are feeling guilt apparently. I am not sure what the solution is. Some people choose a therapist to help them get to the root of the feelings they are experiencing. If you do exercises your energy level may be higher.

Have you considered getting into a relationship?

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lexxinski · May 25, 2015 at 07:59 PM

Hi Candc. Thanks for the welcome and your insight. You may be right. I feel guilty that I couldn't do more things for my mother before she passed away and I blame my father for her soon departure.

Yet I also feel sort of guilty I haven't called him in a long time, he is still my father even though I dislike him. Maybe I should just call him and ask how he is doing.

lexxinski · May 26, 2015 at 09:51 AM

I would have never thought that these two are connected somehow. Is it because Im undertaking a pleasurable activity and I feel guilty somehow? Then I would've have parents' images popping up whenever I drink alcohol. Or maybe because it has something to do with procreation.

mountain human · May 26, 2015 at 03:07 PM

I would suggest speaking to a mental health professional if you have access to one. This issue is more than sexual I suspect. Also, don't let guilt put you back into the middle of an unhealthy relationship. Sounds like you're not ready to go there yet.

lexxinski · May 26, 2015 at 03:46 PM

Hi Mountain human, thanks for the reply. I'v been actually seeing a psychotherapist due to my depression attack since March. There are too many issues and this one is not a priority one, I don't know if I would have time to discuss it at all, although I will mention it.

So I called my dad and no answer. Then I spoke to my niece and she told me he had been drinking for the past couple of days or maybe more. That's the exact reason I don't want to speak to him, I can't stand it when he is drunk. He has been drinking all his life and also verbally and physically abusing my mother all the time. That's why I hate him. Sometimes I feel like killing myself.

mountain human · May 27, 2015 at 11:58 AM

Again, if interaction with family causes such intense unpleasant feelings, keeping them at arms' length seems prudent. It's good that you are able to share this with a professional. Members of this site are supportive, but one-on-one with a therapist is a great resource.

Mike_J · Jun 03, 2015 at 11:10 AM

I wouldn't let your mind have the chance to put images in your mind, thanks to the internet you can put a bunch of unrelated images/videos into your eyes, focus on them and use them to push out other invented images that your mind might produce.

Jan 02, 2016 at 03:22 AM

Your subconscious is attempting to prevent you from masturbating, and this is most likely a very effective way of doing that. For some reason, part of you isn't in the mood for it at that time or you are feeling guilty.

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lexxinski Member Member Since May 2015 Location: Toronto Posts: 32 9	May 25, 2015 at 04:40 PM #1 For the past couple of weeks I can't masturbate. As soon as I start one of my parent's image pops up in my head. Any advice on how to get rid of that?
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lexxinski Member Member Since May 2015 Location: Toronto Posts: 32 9	May 25, 2015 at 07:59 PM #3 Hi Candc. Thanks for the welcome and your insight. You may be right. I feel guilty that I couldn't do more things for my mother before she passed away and I blame my father for her soon departure. Yet I also feel sort of guilty I haven't called him in a long time, he is still my father even though I dislike him. Maybe I should just call him and ask how he is doing.
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lexxinski Member Member Since May 2015 Location: Toronto Posts: 32 9	May 26, 2015 at 09:51 AM #4 I would have never thought that these two are connected somehow. Is it because Im undertaking a pleasurable activity and I feel guilty somehow? Then I would've have parents' images popping up whenever I drink alcohol. Or maybe because it has something to do with procreation.
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mountain human Member Member Since Sep 2014 Location: in my monkey mind Posts: 348 9 82 hugs given	May 26, 2015 at 03:07 PM #5 I would suggest speaking to a mental health professional if you have access to one. This issue is more than sexual I suspect. Also, don't let guilt put you back into the middle of an unhealthy relationship. Sounds like you're not ready to go there yet.
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mountain human Member Member Since Sep 2014 Location: in my monkey mind Posts: 348 9 82 hugs given	May 27, 2015 at 11:58 AM #7 Again, if interaction with family causes such intense unpleasant feelings, keeping them at arms' length seems prudent. It's good that you are able to share this with a professional. Members of this site are supportive, but one-on-one with a therapist is a great resource.
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Anonymous31313 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 02, 2016 at 03:22 AM #9 Your subconscious is attempting to prevent you from masturbating, and this is most likely a very effective way of doing that. For some reason, part of you isn't in the mood for it at that time or you are feeling guilty.
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