Want to get this guy out of my mind

This guy in my life who happens to be my colleague and once upon a time good friend.
We moved out of friend zone area, a big mistake definitely. I always liked hanging out with him but not really making out with him. I was going over making out sessions because I don't have any other friends and I liked being with him. But, when we don't like something we would one day take out the frustration it causes on someone. That is exactly what I did. I took all the frustration out on him blaming him for my misery. This guy is cheating on his wife who hasn't been faithful to him.

We broke up then from both whatever relationship we had and even friendship. I'm completely alone now, no friends at all... except one online friend who stays in other continent.

I think about him all the time. It has been 6 months since our last personal interaction, we do have to talk in office where he doesn't meet my eyes ever.
I miss him, I want to hang out with him again. I don't want to ask anything to him because I don't want to make out with him again. I've tried all sorts of distractions, but I can't help but wish he comes back.

Please help me to get him out of my mind.

Hi Problem. That is a tough situation having romance gone sour at work. Lucky it did not compromise your job. Do you still want to work there? Finding activities you like outside of work can bring you in touch with people.

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Thanks CANDC

I am here in hope that this place helps me too

You need to first decide yourself whether you actually like him or want to forget about him. Remember, though, that he is married and he has no business going around with you, leave alone making out with you (this applies equally to you too, my dear!). Your post suggests that you want him yet despise him at the same time. I would recommend that you keep your distance from him and limit your interactions to the minimum required. Press the 'Delete' button in your mind so far as he is concerned and try seeking healthy and worthwhile friendships at the workplace and elsewhere, engage yourself in doing things that interest you or you are passionate about- the possibilities are aplenty. If your distractions have not worked so far it only implies that your resolve to "forget about him" has not been strong enough. If nothing works then try re-locating, if possible. I am hopeful that you can overcome this easily. All the best!

Good ole sweet time is really the only thing that will help get him out of your mind. That & like others said, purposely getting yourself out socially.

Now from much experience.....playing w/a married person is just not worth it. It's lonely & doesn't end well. Good luck