[GenderUnspecific]

I came out to my parents as female-to-male transgender a few months ago, and they were furious. I got yelled at for about a week straight, and then we didn't talk about it again.

Lately, it's been brought up again and now my parents are being really cold and kind of mean, or just flat-out ignoring me. I'm leaving for college in a couple weeks, but I'm worried it'll never end and that they'll always hate me for this. Especially if I decide to transition, which they "forbid" me from doing (but honestly that isn't for them to decide).

How do I deal with incredibly unsupportive parents??

Its my opinion that the only one that needs to be happy with yourself is you. While having unsupportive parents can make it more difficult for you, its really not up to them to decide who you are. I think that over time, they will realize that this is who you are. And if they dont….well lets not think about that. Just tell yourself that this is who you are, they arent going to change it. And I would tell them the same.You cant change who you are.

[Artchic528]

I agree with Chaotic. The only person who needs to be happy with who they are is you. It's beyond hard when someone you thought you could trust and lean on for support is basically ignoring you and treating you with utter rudeness and overall giving you the cold shoulder.

I'm not going to say that this will resolve with time, because I don't know your parents, but like Chaotic said, let's not think about that for now. Focus on you, and being happy with yourself. That includes making yourself happy with your outer appearance and finding inner peace.

Keep in mind that, as much as it's a change for you to come out to your parents about the gender you associate with and the transition you'll undertake to become the man you've always felt you were, this is also a huge change for your parents. They are obviously not open to the idea that gender is fluid rather than static and obviously feeling alarmed and scared that their "daughter" is now fully opening up to them as identifying as male. I'm not siding with them, far from it. Just pointing out that they are going through just about as much as you are right now.