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Default Sep 03, 2015 at 11:46 PM
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My ex and I were in short relationship. He was my friend before we moved into more than friends and now he doesn't reply to my messages or picks my call. It hurts, I want to move on but I'm just unable to.

My ex was a good friend of mine. He was in a bad relationship then which eventually ended. With that he moved closer to me. I knew it was rebound, I supported him to the best I could but I couldn't get myself into sex with him.

Actually, he is my first relationship where I've felt more than a friend. But, having a person on rebound as my first isn't possible for me. I even found a picture of him with his ex in his house and I couldn't handle it. After that he broke up with me. Told me that it is for my good.

Yes, I know it is for my good that he is away from me. He still loves his ex, he only wanted me for sex which I denied. Friends with benefit isn't for me. I need more from a relationship. But, now I miss him. It is over 3 months we have talked. We work in same office and so sometimes we have to be in same calls. It shatters me. I act normal but once I get back in my room, I can feel how restless I'm.

I think about him a lot. I've tried all distractions including making new friends. I've a friend now with whom I hang out, we go out for walks, dinner, watch movies but still my ex remains in my head.

I don't crave for sex, I crave to be with him, spend time with him as we used do during our friendship day.

What is wrong with me?
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Default Sep 14, 2015 at 07:03 PM
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There is nothing wrong with you! Some of us just take longer to get over relationships than others. I've actually been in a similar situation and I will say that for me the best thing to do was to do positive things for myself, set goals for myself and focus on other things besides the ex relationship. I think the best thing to do is to keep yourself busy and focused on yourself, loving yourself, and in the meantime maybe going on dates with other people!
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Default Nov 12, 2015 at 12:15 AM
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Currently, I'm having good life. Have made group of friends with whom I regularly hang out and enjoy too. Even my attitude towards life is changing for positive.
But, with all these good things, I still miss him. Still wish that he would love me, he would want to spend rest of his life with me. When I think back, look at signs of love, I can't find even a single sign which says he loves me. Infact, it is opposite.

When will I move on leaving him behind? Or will he realize my importance and come back to me for good?
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