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Default Sep 12, 2015 at 02:59 AM
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Hey,

So I recently came to terms with my bisexuality. I am currently talking (or rather, texting) to a guy that is two years older than me. He seems to date a lot & thought I was "cute" and after we got to talking he wants me to be his head buddy. He's been honest and revealed that he is talking to another guy and could potentially start dating him while still having our FWB on the side.

I'm a virgin, and I've never even really touched a guy before. I don't even really know what I'm asking here. I guess some insight or wisdom couldn't hurt.
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Default Sep 12, 2015 at 11:05 AM
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I'm assuming you are a guy. I too am a bisexual man.

You've been honest enough to say that you don't know what you want, but that really is the core of any relationship. As a virgin, everything will be new. Most bisexual guys are really interested in guys for the sex, and mostly it's an attraction to the penis. You could just start out experimenting, which considering the guy you are chatting with is looking for a FWB is right in line with the situation.

You could start by meeting up, finding out what it is like to be physical with another guy. Try kissing, humping, give and receiving oral, even giving and receiving ****. Find out what you like, and be honest with your partner.

Eventually you will know if you want more than a sexual relationship, then you can take things to,the next level, with your friend or another.

You are at the start of a long and special path, exploring your sexuality. Walk in the direction that make you feel comfortable, whichever path takes you there.
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Hey,

So I recently came to terms with my bisexuality. I am currently talking (or rather, texting) to a guy that is two years older than me. He seems to date a lot & thought I was "cute" and after we got to talking he wants me to be his head buddy. He's been honest and revealed that he is talking to another guy and could potentially start dating him while still having our FWB on the side.

I'm a virgin, and I've never even really touched a guy before. I don't even really know what I'm asking here. I guess some insight or wisdom couldn't hurt.
I am a bi man as well, I just came back out and am looking to explore this part of my sexuality however I don't want to just get it on with someone I meet online. I have looked at Craigslist and other dating sites and yes it would be great to explore a man's body, I want the shallowness taken out of it. I like adventure but I don't want to have my first experience to be empty.
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Default Sep 13, 2015 at 02:06 AM
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Bumping this thread in the hopes that you get some feedback.

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Default Sep 14, 2015 at 06:49 PM
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It seems like you are looking for a real emotional connection before dipping into the sexual world as a virgin- which is fine! There are two things that you could do: Go for it with this guy sexually but be possibly left with hurt feelings (losing your virginity as a "FWB") OR (and this may be the better choice, considering your hesitation) you should search around and talk to some more guys that are more willing to maybe go on a date or hang out with you first before going the sexual route. Hope everything goes well
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Default Sep 14, 2015 at 09:41 PM
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To what extent is FWB what you are looking for?
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Default Sep 22, 2015 at 09:05 PM
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It sounds microbially irresponsible in my opinion. It may be outdated info, but I think frot is the safest.

https://www.aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics...l-risk-factors

Sex is great, and more sex is even better. Get a steady partner.
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Be with a person who wants you as a partner; not a back-up for the days Johnny Six-Pack isn't in the mood.
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Default Dec 12, 2015 at 08:25 PM
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Be careful guys in particular gay and bi guys tend to have multiple partners. And in that way every partner they have ends up being yours as well it is as if you are getting their sexual karma. Being a virgin you don't want to catch something that will change the rest of your life. You can catch stuff from sexual fluids including precum so if you go down the oral route and think it safe be smart and still use a condom.
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Default Dec 13, 2015 at 02:36 AM
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As soon as I heard "head buddy" I immediately thought this guy just wants to get, not give. Walk away from that as soon as you can!

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Default Dec 15, 2015 at 10:58 AM
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Personally, I would want more out of a relationship. It sounds like he's more interested in pursuing someone else and keep you as a side distraction to me.

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