A "little" bisexual?

Is it true that everyone is a little bisexual?

I am a woman. I've always considered myself straight, but lately I've had both sexual dreams about men and then sometimes sexual dreams with women. In both dreams, I am aroused. But mostly with women I am aroused when I kiss them or touch breasts...I'm actually a little repulsed by going down below the waist area. Is that normal?

Would it be true that sexual preference is more on a continuous spectrum rather than one side or the other?

Lo, There is a spectrum of sexuality, there is one side completely hetero and the other side completely homosexual and then there is everything in between. I am bi sexual, I fall close to the middle. Now there is a subjective test out there by Doctor Alfred Kinsey, he was a well know expert who did pulls in hundreds of cities and of thousands of people on the street to come up with this continuum of sexuality. Look it up and see where you fall in the scale. I also think that if this is just in the dream realm, maybe your subconscious could be trying to tell you something. Look up also Freud's interpretation of dreams, he may have been an odd duck, but he explored the meaning of dreams to the fullest. I hope that you find this helpful.

Yes very much so. Although Kinsey's methods were a little off, the basics are pretty much accepted...sexuality is a spectrum with 100% heterosexual at one end and 100% homosexual at the other end. Some people will be at the further ends...being 100% attracted to one sex or the other, whereas if anyone has any attraction at all, no matter how small to both sexes, then they fit somewhere between 99.99999999% heterosexual to 99.999999999% homosexual. You can guess that means that there are pretty much an infinite number of levels of bisexuality.

That means that even if a "normal" heterosexual man just once watches some gay men having sex and gets aroused, whether he masturbates or not, he has demonstrated that he has some sexual attraction to other men. At least in my opinion, that means that he has some homosexual aspects and that he is at least some % homosexual. That means he isn't 100% heterosexual and therefore falls somewhere on the spectrum as bisexual.

In your case, you have an attraction to women and their breasts, and an attraction strong enough to get you aroused. By my interpretation, this shows you have at least some homosexual aspects within you, therefore you are bisexual, even if only "a little".

Believe me, I know as I too am bisexual, though I'm closer to 60-70% homosexual and 30-40% heterosexual. And I haven't always been at those levels. I was pretty much gay as a teen (90% homosexual), relatively straight through university and my 20's (65% heterosexual) and have moved back the other way as I've gotten married, had kids and gotten older (60-70% homosexual).

I'd avoid worrying about labels. Just live your life being comfortable with who you are. Your inborn attractions (at whatever % they are) will draw you to whoever you will be attracted to in a way that matches to your personality.

Thanks, both of you!

That makes me feel a little better. I have no problem with being bi, gay, or straight. And I know there are other "labels" too. One of my best friends is attracted to anyone, better known as pansexual, except she says she doesn't like labels.

It's not really just in my dreams. I have kissed a lot of women when I've been drunk. I have had a threesome with a man and another woman, twice. During those two times, I didn't go anywhere near her crotch area because it grosses me out. But I really enjoyed her breasts and her lips. I am also still in love with my former therapist, who is a woman...but I always thought the only reason I was in love with her was because she crossed a lot of boundaries with me and a lot of transference occured, so I didn't think much of it. But lately I have been fantasizing about having sex with her or any other imaginary woman.

It's interesting that you said you change spots on the continuum throughout your lifetime. I was definitely fully straight up until a few years ago. Either that, or I just suppressed it because I didn't want to be any sort of gay (what with the stigma and all).

Lo, transference with a therapist is common place, especially if there aren't good boundaries and it doesn't help that you have a trusting "relationship" with them so your guard is down and you are vulnerable with them. I repressed my bi-sexual feelings a lot, because of my strict upbringing and the "social norms" that were in my environment. When I was younger and actively political, I was even "militantly" anti-homosexual, so I was repressing hard core. I am glad that you know what you like and don't like, don't be afraid of your sexuality and enjoy your life. Fantasy is fun and so is the real thing. You go where life takes you and where you take life.

Yes, I'm a true believer that just about every human is bisexual in some way. Many don't know it until they are in a situation where they discover their true sexuality. I know my "sexuality" spectrum has been affected by my upbringing, social inputs at school, work environment, married life, etc. Even now when I say that I'm more gay than straight, I believe it's because so long as I'm in a monogamous heterosexual marriage, "straight" sex is just not that exciting. Perhaps its the fact that I can't/don't have gay sex that it is more exciting, enticing and arousing.

I'm not, but my wife is a little bi-curious. Sexuality is a broad spectrum, not a series of neat little categories so pushing people into sometime like saying everyone is X or some is only Y is like saying gray is only gray and there are no shades.

It's hard to fathom how bisexuality could exist as a distinct, either/or sexual orientation. It almost necessitates a spectrum. However, even if we're not all straight as arrows, I think we tend toward exclusive interest in one sex or the other. Bisexuals are something of an anomaly.

I think I'm more "bi-curious" than anything. I tend to lean way more to the straight side...but....I have feelings for women sometimes.

This is a very interesting thread I've always wondered about this spectrum. I typically identify or say I'm bisexual, being 80% sexually attracted to women and 20% to men and sometimes I wonder if I should just identify as lesbian. I don't think it makes much sense in my case to say I'm bi, I don't know lol.

The differences between men and women's sexuality are really amazing sometimes, although not really surprising.

Reading the OP where she says that she is sexually attracted to other women but repulsed about going below the waist but in my experience with bi guys, it's been like bix has mentioned, all about the D.

To the OP, yes, I believe sexuality is very fluid. Time of day, day of week, day of month, who knows. And I do agree that we're all bisexual, and only our willingness to act on our curiosities limits our experiences.

I envy women. They have more opportunity for successful companionship than men. The traits that most women seek in men (tenderness, kindness and sensitivity) are usually present in women. Society works against men who too openly sport these traits.

Ultimately, "experimentation is our only means of first hand knowledge. Everything else is poetry, rumor and imagination." Happy experimenting!