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Member Since May 2014
Location: California
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#21
I did it my first time in fear of not ever having that kind of experience till later in life. I have never been in a relationship & am not a virgin. Do I regret it? I regretted it for years esp. because it wasn't with a special person. But at the same time, I think if I hadn't done it, I would still have stayed one for a long time. I just got really impatient. I thought "Live like you'll die tomorrow" I'm glad I did it but at the same time, it feels weird that I did it because of the fear of staying a virgin.
I feel like I would've been where you are and you could've been where I am. It was just that we made different choices. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Member Since Aug 2015
Location: Sandy, UT
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#22
Welp, I just told him no. Of course. He insisted yesterday that we do it tonight, but we could only do it late, and I'd have to come up with a REALLY good alibi to not totally freak out my mom, who I still live with even when I'm 25 years old, and who is very protective of me.
I literally can never decide whether this is a good idea or not. I'm ALWAYS wrapped in indecision, and it never ends. On one hand, I may have just thrown away a new experience, but on the other hand, I could have deeply regretted feeling "cheapened" by some random casual sex stranger when I'm a strong woman who has lofty career goals- not that men with the same lofty goals aren't sleeping around with any women they feel like... UGH. At least now I can never say I'm not a virgin by choice. |
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Member Since Apr 2014
Location: Hungary
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well to be exact... it was wonderful. and after it wasn't my first time, but the first I truly choose with a person I was in love with.... it was uplifting and beautyful. And after all this... I'm still anxious and need emotional support when having a first-time with somebody, so it is fine. |
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Poohbah
Member Since Sep 2015
Location: Upstate NY
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#24
I spen too much time online and I've heard that your first time isn't supposed to change you. It's not supposed to be anymore special or life changing than trying a new food.
That said, regardless, sex inspires in me either disinterest, romanticized curiosity, or terror/anxiety. I'm a virgin at 21 and totally okay with that. |
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Member Since Oct 2015
Location: Beverly Hills
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#25
I was 16 y/o and just felt comfortable in the moment and with the person I was dating at the time. I don't think it really changed me in any substantial way.
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