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Default Nov 18, 2015 at 10:14 PM
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TRIGGER!!!

Does anyone have a problem if their lover has had too many partners?

Is it different for males or females?

Do condoms matter?
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Default Nov 19, 2015 at 07:30 AM
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What kind of relationship is it where your lover has multiple (too many) partners? I assume it's an open relationship...
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Default Nov 19, 2015 at 08:56 AM
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I'm guessing that you're discussing past sexual partners. Like "I slept w/this # of people etc."
Hearing that number can be an issue, but I'm also older & come from a very conservative background.
Yeah I think it can effect your psyche if that number needs to be explained somehow. Does it correlate to the persons age.

For example id have an issue hearing that a 20 yr old had 5-10 or more partners. But that's just my opinion & yes I think knowing if they practiced safe sex would make a difference to me.
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Default Nov 20, 2015 at 02:29 AM
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Nvmd. Too detailed to explain my train of thought. lol
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Default Nov 20, 2015 at 03:41 AM
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Don't ask don't tell beyond sharing the results of your STI exam!

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Default Nov 20, 2015 at 11:20 PM
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LOL.

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I had a profound thought when I started the thread, but I was stoned then! lol
It happens. LOL.

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Default Nov 22, 2015 at 11:37 AM
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Yes, as a female I can be uncomfortable hearing the list of prior sexual partners. Even more so now, since I contracted an STD from a man I dated for many months and swore he was clean. I myself am very conservative in who I select as a sexual partner so it can be uncomfortable for me and confusing with partners of mine who have been more liberal in their sex life and with whom. I have found males that are as selective as me, though. So I think it is more a personality and value system thing and not a gender thing.

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Default Nov 23, 2015 at 04:00 AM
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Good answer. I think age matters too, like you grow out of promiscuity.
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Default Nov 29, 2015 at 07:39 PM
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I think to say "too many" may be judgmental, which is different from "risky behavior."
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Default Dec 01, 2015 at 09:57 AM
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Let's remember that every partner you sleep with includes their former partners as well so that number grows exponentially.
I'd have no issues saying "too many" to someone bec it's just so easy to lie.

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Default Dec 02, 2015 at 11:15 PM
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Let's remember that every partner you sleep with includes their former partners as well so that number grows exponentially.
I'd have no issues saying "too many" to someone bec it's just so easy to lie.
That is a good point. I am all for freedom of sexuality, but current day promiscuity is a turn off.

It is like you do it when you are younger and get it out of your system.
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