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Default Nov 25, 2015 at 01:15 AM
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I'm not skinny...or flexible...and yet some of the guys I've been with like to put me in really uncomfortable positions, particularly throwing my legs over their shoulders and spreading myself as wide as possible at the same time. It hurts like a mf'er. I don't do doggy style because the last and only time I've done doggy style he puts his d*ck in the wrong hole!

What other positions can I do for intercourse that isn't so painful?
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I'm not skinny...or flexible...and yet some of the guys I've been with like to put me in really uncomfortable positions, particularly throwing my legs over their shoulders and spreading myself as wide as possible at the same time. It hurts like a mf'er. I don't do doggy style because the last and only time I've done doggy style he puts his d*ck in the wrong hole!

What other positions can I do for intercourse that isn't so painful?
um short version there are young teens (some as young as 12 and 13 year olds) on psych central so Im not sure how graphic we are allowed to get especially since sex talk has recently been placed on the things we cant do in chat rooms (which usually means cant do on the boards too so my reply may seem a bit lacking on details but what I can say is in general each person is different, some people like things one way and others may like things another way. my suggestion would be talk with your treatment providers, they will be able to point you towards sex ed classes and reading materials that can teach you all about sex including positions that may be right for you. usually if not consulting with treatment providers people learn what they like and dont like through experimentation including making up their own ways to do things. a good place to start is learning about your own body and what pleases you , and then you will be able to tell your partner what pleases you.
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Default Nov 25, 2015 at 08:14 AM
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Spooning works really well. Cowgirl as well (plus you can control your stimulation better with cowgirl).

Doggy with a pillow underneath you for support should be really good, but if he can't get it in the right place I can understand your concern. That really hurts if you aren't ready.

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Work on stretching your hamstrings and strengthening your quads.
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Default Nov 27, 2015 at 05:15 PM
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Personally, I think it's a bit concerning that the guys you're having sex with dont seem to be ensuring you are comfortable and having a good time. There will always be positions that are great for some and painful or uncomfortable for others. Hopefully if you can find a patient, considerate partner, you can discover the positions that work for you and feel comfortable and fun for both of you.
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Default Nov 27, 2015 at 06:08 PM
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Maybe you just need to take him in a variety of ways. If you are playful enough and focus on foreplay he will want you bad enough that the position won't matter. Sometimes I engage my husband in two or three positions before finishing up the way I prefer (flat on my back with him on top of me) there is nothing that says you have to stay in one position for the whole time
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Default Nov 27, 2015 at 07:12 PM
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I like to get furniture involved & different rooms. Adds to the adventure!
Agree on reverse cowgirl too. Great position for both

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