Thoughts on pornography...?

"I forgot the culture here was that (some) people prefer to let topics of conversation die rather than embracing their evolution."

Alex, your comment above is uncalled for. and i forgot the culture from which you post. the culture of "if i am not right, then i'll be condesending".

there is such a thing as following a thread that someone starts. i was, and am still, suggesting that when you want to take the bit in your mouth and run towards YOUR barn, please take it to PMs.

it's like asking you what time it is and having you tell me how to build a clock.

"I'm sorry you find quotes and statistics and arguments tiring."

my, we are being presumptous today, aren't we?

find where i said it was tiring. i said it could be too much information and i mean that.

taking over a thread to push your information and picking apart posts is what tires me. start another thread if you want to.

filters aren't that hard to use in our culture and they certainly do come in handy when the temptation to take over a thread arises.

I'd like to jump in here and say that it's time for this conversation to go back to the original topic.

The conversation has evolved, but only with a few. Others who would like to read the topic don't expect it.

I agree that when a topic turns to conversation strictly between two or three people and is off-topic from the original post, it should go to PM or to another thread.

I think it's great that you're discussing your feelings and differences! However, it's taking completely away from the previous, *intended* conversation.

For instance, I came to read about thoughts on pornography...

Thanks!

KD

condescending and presumptuous...

descriptions of me again...

keeping threads 'on topic' kind of precludes the working through of differences...

this thread is five pages long now. aren't there many thoughts on pornography already? would the thread have gotten as long as it has if people hadn't thought a little more laterally about the topic? are peoples lateral thoughts about the topic preventing people from posting thoughts in response to the initial question?

online transference is an interesting topic... the way people interpret what is said...

am i to understand that it is okay for someone here to call another person 'condescending', 'presumptuous', 'disrespectful', 'insulting', etc etc etc.

because if it is then i simply won't post to these boards again. i thought these boards were meant to be a safe place for support. not a place where people can feel free to come and describe your behaviour (or character) in a malevolent way. i don't think many people would stand for that IRL and i see no reason why i should stand for it here. i have feelings too. i've tried to be sensitive to the feelings of other people. but i have feelings too.

this is no longer a community topic, though alexandra. it's become a conversation to a few and way off-topic. it can still be discussed, absolutely. however, it needs to be in PM or another thread.

if you have further response to me, please put it in PM.

i'd like only to see further posting to be on topic with the original conversation. further off-topic posting is subject to removal.

please send a PM or begin a new thread.

KD

I'd like to say that I removed a post against the guidelines.

To those of you that responded, your responses went along for the ride. I'm sorry.

Thank you!

KD

Thanks, Kimmy...you did good!
Patty

I hate that I feel it necessary to lock this thread. I think it's pretty much run its course, but would have liked to have left it open for those to stop by and comment with their thoughts.

However, at this point, those that are responding are continuing on in the off-topic, posting against request and/or guidelines, etc.

If the OP would like to begin a new thread on the OT, please don't hesitate.

Thanks!

KD