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Grand Magnate
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Feb 25, 2016 at 10:15 AM
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So my SO & I r very liberal & open about sex & discussing it with our children.
I came from a childhood of knowing nothing which just was a disaster & I always said I want my kids to know it all! There's always that kid on the playground that seems to have all the sex answers & I want that to be my kid. So My 11yo now knows pretty much everything about male & female anatomy & the science behind sex. We use anatomically correct names & functions. I do fill her in on all the slang words for things so she is aware. We know this is a huge responsibility. Last wk I found in her bed my vibrating face scrubber....which made me giggle. I've known for awhile that she masturbates & we've talked about it. A lot. So she turns 12yo in 6 months & id like to buy her a vibrator. Her own. I'd like her to understand her body & know how to please herself so in the future she can explain it to her partner. Skip that weird fumbling date thing. Also that she understands that if a date doesn't go well, she has the option of coming home & taking care. That she knows what feels right & what doesn't. She's very physically mature for her age. Very developed. But is her mind that developed. That's the question. __________________ "Doubt is like dye. Once it spreads into the fabric of excuses you've woven, you'll never get rid of the stain." Jodi Picoult |
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Feb 25, 2016 at 11:44 AM
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Ummmm. That is great taht you are able to be open with her in discussing sexuallity. In these days and times you really need to be. Kids will find answers somewhere. I would it rather it be a parent then another kid or a website.
As for buying your 12 yr old a vibe. I'm not so sure that is a good idea. Hopefully in life she will not need one. Unfortunately we ladies can develop a dependance on our battery operated friend. It is very hard to reverse that. In my opinion that is setting her up for failure. Let her experiment in her own ways, and if a vibe is something she would like to purchase let that be up to her and her husband one day, or her and her bf one day, or her as a fully developed mature lady who knows what her sexual needs are. I wouldn't go pushing that kind of thing on a developing grils body and anatomy. That's just my opinion. |
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Feb 25, 2016 at 05:12 PM
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No.
I can't imagine that she is. There is more to this than just a gift for a 12 year old. Just my opinion as I don't know your daughter. Good luck with whatever you decide. |
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Feb 25, 2016 at 06:35 PM
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I agree with what was said. Maybe give her something else.
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Grand Magnate
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Feb 26, 2016 at 09:19 AM
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Thank you for the comments...keep them coming so I can think this thru!
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