My dad is a transvestite, help me understand what he did.

I never knew that my father had an interest in womens clothes and neither did my mother. That was until a few things happened. I was probably 8 years old and my mother found some womens underwear under the car seat. She thought it was for another women.

My dad then did something which effected me as a child. He went outside the front of our home dressed up and posing towards the neighbor. My mother and I had no idea this had happened until the police came to inform this had happened. The embarrassment this caused meant we had to move house. I believe his reason for doing it was stress.

This was when I found out about my dad's issue and my mother too. My mother decided to stay with him, but has constantly blackmailed him about it since 'you'll pay for what you did'.

Anyway, my question is about this type of thing. Why would my father do what he did without considering the effect on me?

Apparently he enjoyed his activity at work in a closed office and would store his clothes in a locker. So this way no one knew.

Maybe people who have this issue can help explain it all to me, it will hopefully make me feel better. I have all kinds of worries such as if I was ever abused and instantly consider my dad because of his actions. Why would he do that in front of a neighbor? He has never done it since, as far as we understand.

A cross dresser is a person who has unresolved issues from childhood. There are many people that are born both sexes and the parent decides the sex, they make the decision. It happens more often they they let you know and in America it is taboo to be born both sexes but it is an honor in India and other countries. There are those who are infertile and those that are fertile both sexes. That could be one possibility.
The other could be that his hormones could be more feminine in nature and he navigates towards that. He feels more comfort from wearing womens clothing and it helps him. There are many men who in the privacy of their homes wear womens clothing. I think it was stress for him to go outside and pose the way he did. However now the world has said do whatever you want, that is the new normal now and that causes more confusion cause it seems guidelines are getting blurred.
I recommend that you see your dad as one struggling with issues he has a hard time with. That you love him as your dad and forgive him for not thinking of your feelings first and your mothers when he was struggling so hard to keep it together. Have some compassion on him and accept him as he is the way he is. Love your father and just be there for him cause he needs you as much as you need him. (((hugs))) tc

I can understand how someone who is hiding himself has a point were he just wants to break out without considering the effekt on others (anymore)

Personally, I dont get why your dad did it in front of you. It very well could have been stress. I am a 51 year old male, and I have my own "collection" of womens underwear and socks. I enjoy the colors, styles and fabrics. If you saw me in person you would never suspect that I am any less of a "man".

Now the reason I say that I agree with the stress theory is because if I am stressed, that is when I get the strongest desire to "crossdress". Ive never done it outside though and am mortified at the thought of it. I can agree with what someone else here says about it possibly being a childhood issue. I can vaguely trace mine to certain events of my childhood but not directly to my parents.

either way what you father needs is your help and support, not for the crossdressing, but for the amount of stress that made him go out and show off. As far as the cross dressing is concerned, what is really the harm in wearing a certain fabric of a certain color and certain cut?!?!