[jakers59]

I am a 20 year old virgin, with social anxiety and body dysmorphic disorder/ocd and depression. I've never had a gf, sex, or even kissed a woman. I keep stressing that it's too late to do anything., and that I might as well not even try. I worry a lot, however, about my penis size. I'm like around 5.5 inches long when hard and about 5 inches in girth. I worry that if I ever have sex, I won't be able to pleasure a woman/make her orgasm/cum/squirt because my penis is too small or not the right shape/size. I saw a video that said the average penis size is 5-7 inches and another one that says it's 6 inches. So technically, I'm on the smaller side of average/below average. What should I do? Give up on ever finding a love/sex life? Even if a women did date me/have sex with me, she probably wouldn't truly want to be with me and would use me, she would probably fantasize about getting pounded with some guy with a 7-9 inch penis anyway. A woman would probably laugh at my size and leave me if she's been with men that big. I just feel ashamed of myself and that I'll be embarrassed or ridiculed, I don't know what to do about it either.

[cryingontheinside]

You sound perfectely normal to me . you just lack confidence . there's nothing wrong with your size . its understandleble you are nervous because you are starting out late but that's nothing to be ashamed of . please don't beat yourself up

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[mdogboy1]

As much as society tries to tell us that size matters, when you find the right woman to love it really won't.

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[jakers59]

Originally Posted by cryingontheinside

You sound perfectely normal to me . you just lack confidence . there's nothing wrong with your size . its understandleble you are nervous because you are starting out late but that's nothing to be ashamed of . please don't beat yourself up

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Yeah, society sucks. I always feel ashamed because everyone I know seems to be experienced, and in the media and stuff they tell you if you haven't had a sexual experience or are sexually active by your teen years, then you are a virgin loser and you shouldn't even try now because people will think you're a loser/awkward.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Foreplay baby. Plenty of kissing. Body sex. Rub oil or cream between body's.

[dexter]

I believe that many partners (possibly most) care more about emotional connection and/or your ability to make an effort to please them than simply physical size. I think it is normal to be insecure but possibly unwarranted. TV makes us think everyone is having sex but I'm not sure that is the case... in any case don't worry about what "society" says it is quite possible that everyone you know is in the same boat but just as afraid to admit it. Confidence is sexy.

[burpnturp]

Size doesn't matter. It's how you use it

[Shaly78]

Be a great oral giver! I think u beating urself up, has it happened yet... Has someone hurt the ego? About size? Most women aren't that worried it's just like icing, is all.

[Focus62]

I lost my virginity at 19, and I'm pretty sure the guy I lost it to was smaller than you...I didn't care. I don't think the first thought that pops into a girl's head when they're about to have sex with you is "wow, that thing is tiny/large". It certainly wasn't mine, I was focused on our closeness and how I felt good with him.

[Pikku Myy]

Its all in your brain if you are comftarrble with you, your partner will feel the same.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by Focus62

I lost my virginity at 19, and I'm pretty sure the guy I lost it to was smaller than you...I didn't care. I don't think the first thought that pops into a girl's head when they're about to have sex with you is "wow, that thing is tiny/large". It certainly wasn't mine, I was focused on our closeness and how I felt good with him.

I can say I've actually HAD that experience before, at the point when the pants came down and I was disappointed in his size. But he was unusually small and a virgin to boot, so I didn't say a single word to the contrary.

I was a late bloomer, and gave my V-card up at 27. I guess the main reason was I felt abnormal to be such at that age, but I really did have feelings for the guy whom I gave it too. In fact, I still fondly reminisce about that night and him from time to time. You never forget your first I guess.

Besides, OP, like the previous posters said, if you find a woman who is truly in love with you and vise versa, she won't think twice about size or shape, but rather how well you two connect on such an intimate level.

[TishaBuv]

Most women don't orgasm from intercourse. It's all about clitoris stimulation done with hands, mouth, toys.

Don't worry. You're not too old and you're not too small.

[JLarissaDragon]

I do not think size is very important for me. Ultimately it is a total package. I want to feel loved, closed ravished by the man I love. Most women don't orgasm the first time they have sex with someone. Relax take it slow with plenty of kissing and foreplay. Hopefully she will tell you what feels good and when she is ready for you to enter her body.
good luck

Do you think all women are super-shallow?