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LiteraryLark · Apr 19, 2016 at 07:40 PM

I don't have a sexual orientation. I like guys, and I like girls. I don't like sex. BJs are the only thing I like to do which is what makes me prefer guys over girls, but girls I like more romantically than guys. I don't enjoy intercourse and I don't like anybody going down on me and I don't think I would enjoy going down a girl.

eskielover · Apr 19, 2016 at 10:53 PM

Do we really need labels. Why can't we just BE?

LiteraryLark · Apr 20, 2016 at 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

Do we really need labels. Why can't we just BE?

I get that, but it bothers me that I hate sex and yet wish I could like it.

Pflaumenkeks · Apr 20, 2016 at 11:13 AM

Sex is more than penetration. If you don't like that: good for you to know! Then you can do all the fun stuff you enjoy!

Artchic528 · 02:11 AM

Hmm. I would sooner just "be" than worry about orientation. You are you, and that's all that really matters, right?

Apr 21, 2016 at 02:07 AM

Is there any reason you don't like intercourse? Is it too intimate, are you shy, is it painful?

LiteraryLark · Apr 21, 2016 at 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

Is there any reason you don't like intercourse? Is it too intimate, are you shy, is it painful?

All of the above. I feel too vulnerable and it's extremely uncomfortable.

eskielover · Apr 21, 2016 at 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

I get that, but it bothers me that I hate sex and yet wish I could like it.

Sex is not just a recreational thing because whether we like it or not, unless we are completely unfeeling people, the hormones that are created during sex, bond us to the other person we are having it with. That's WHY SEX has it's true meaning within the marriage bonds & not as JUST a recreational activity.

Too intimate & shy, when the right person comes along that you truly LOVE & it's an expression of love for & with that person then that aspect goes away. it takes on it's REAL meaning & becomes a likeable thing.

Though there can be physical reasons why it does not feel comfortable, stressing adds to that discomfort also. But it's like that for most in the beginning so unless there is something physically wrong with you in that area, what you experience is normal. Good reason not to bother until you are with the right person in the right circumstance.

Artchic528 · Apr 21, 2016 at 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

All of the above. I feel too vulnerable and it's extremely uncomfortable.

There is a medical condition that causes intercourse to be extremely painful for women. It's called dyspareunia. Talking to your doctor can help as they can prescribe the proper treatment.

LiteraryLark · Apr 21, 2016 at 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Artchic528

There is a medical condition that causes intercourse to be extremely painful for women. It's called dyspareunia. Talking to your doctor can help as they can prescribe the proper treatment.

I dont have that.

Apr 22, 2016 at 01:54 AM

Does it have to do with body image? When I weighed more, I was a bit uncomfortable with sex also. When i felt more comfortable with my body, it improved my self-esteem.

Do you think maybe as you lose weight it might improve your self- image?

LiteraryLark · Apr 22, 2016 at 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

Does it have to do with body image? When I weighed more, I was a bit uncomfortable with sex also. When i felt more comfortable with my body, it improved my self-esteem.

Do you think maybe as you lose weight it might improve your self- image?

It's a factor, but I agree with Eskie that the times where it felt most comfortable was when I was with someone I had strong feelings for

Bill3 · Apr 22, 2016 at 02:13 PM

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I agree with Eskie that the times where it felt most comfortable was when I was with someone I had strong feelings for

Maybe then a solution might be to have sex only with those for whom you have strong feelings.

delicate grass · Apr 22, 2016 at 05:02 PM

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I don't have a sexual orientation. I like guys, and I like girls. I don't like sex. BJs are the only thing I like to do which is what makes me prefer guys over girls, but girls I like more romantically than guys. I don't enjoy intercourse and I don't like anybody going down on me and I don't think I would enjoy going down a girl.

I would completely relate to that. I used to be with a guy for 7 years and I never enjoyed intercourse. I got very creative, in order to avoid penetration that made me feel extremely uncomfortable and almost nauseous. I am now in a relationship with a woman now though since I got tired of trying to explain myself why I would not have intercourse. I think you don't need a label, but I would guess you'll have to be honest if you go into a relationship as it is a lot of stress if you feel your partner is expecting different things from you.

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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,535 (SuperPoster!) 14 1,318 hugs given	Apr 19, 2016 at 07:40 PM #1 I don't have a sexual orientation. I like guys, and I like girls. I don't like sex. BJs are the only thing I like to do which is what makes me prefer guys over girls, but girls I like more romantically than guys. I don't enjoy intercourse and I don't like anybody going down on me and I don't think I would enjoy going down a girl.
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Artchic528 Supreme Artisan Member Since Nov 2014 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 6,618 9 205 hugs given	Apr 21, 2016 at 12:17 AM #5 Hmm. I would sooner just "be" than worry about orientation. You are you, and that's all that really matters, right? __________________ MY BLOG IS NOW CONVENIENTLY LOCATED HERE!! [UPDATED: 4/30/2017] LIFE IS TOO SHORT, TOO VALUABLE AND TOO PRECIOUS A THING TO WASTE!! Last edited by Artchic528; Apr 21, 2016 at 02:11 AM..
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Anonymous37883 Guest Posts: n/a	Apr 22, 2016 at 01:54 AM #11 Does it have to do with body image? When I weighed more, I was a bit uncomfortable with sex also. When i felt more comfortable with my body, it improved my self-esteem. Do you think maybe as you lose weight it might improve your self- image?
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