Sex drive is non existent

leejt1986 · Apr 22, 2016 at 09:07 PM

I an worried. In the past few years my sex drive has gone from low to non existent. I know medication has a lot to do with it but I think there's something more. I have no desire for sex, find it disgusting and am uncomfortable when my friends talk about it. Masturbation does nothing for me. Porn is incredibly boring. I'm wondering if anyone has any experience with this and could help me out? Should I be worried?

Pflaumenkeks · Apr 23, 2016 at 03:55 AM

Hi,

I don't think I can help you much more than saying that you're not alone. After I gave birth my sex drive went to zero. But very slowly I sometimes start to experience it again (it's been 2,5 years since my child was born).
For me beeing patient with myself and focusing on other things was good enough. To be honest - I didn't missed it.
If you aren't worried, than I see no reason to be. The only thing that comes into my mind is: Make a medial check-up. Sometimes it's just the meds, but there are also medical conditions that can cause a loss of sexual desire.
Also if it bothers you, can you seek help from a therapist? I don't know your history but for me trauma was part of my loss of desire.
Or maybe a change in medication?

If you are healthy and don't miss something, I don't see a problem with it. There are many people who never in their live experienced sexual desire and it's mostly the people around you that are exhausting (with non-understanding) and not the lack of sex.

Mandi29 · May 31, 2016 at 03:36 AM

I don't think it's anything to be worried about, and if you are then yes to see your doctor would be the best thing, they will discuss and come up with ideas to help.

I have had little sex drive all my life, but this to do more with being sexual abused from young to early teens, and the situations I was placed in, this made me a little offensive of men, and not have the want to be with anyone...

So yes I don't think you are alone, but there are different reasons to why

MMM

Lost_in_the_woods · Jun 01, 2016 at 01:57 AM

Meds can really kill libido.

I guess you got to weigh the benifits w/ the side effects.... If your low libido is greatly causing you suffering and diminishing your quality of life, talk to your pdoc or GP about possibly switching to a med with less,sexual side effects or if adding a libido increasing Ned it safe w/ ur current meds.

Jun 02, 2016 at 05:57 PM

Meds killed my libido for years. I got them reduced and started Buspar and Klonopin. The reduction in anxiety also reduced my inhibitions...not unlike alcohol. So inhibitions play a part in sexual activity. Are you anxious?
Also what I did was (and I am serious) was to go to Bath and Body works and get the most sensual smelling lotion I could find. I got a whole set. I would take my time with my shower and then lather in the smell and focus on how sensual I smelled. I told myself I was a beautiful woman. Feeling beautiful is part of being sexual.
Next I began to read erotic literature. I found Literotica to be really nice. It was also quite something because I could read it anywhere and to me that felt just a tad naughty. There I could be anywhere, reading erotic literature and no one knew.
In time, my libido came back.
I don't know if any of these will work for you..there are other factors like resentments in a marriage, physical problems etc that can be part of the problem as well.

Good Luck!

LadyShadow · Jun 02, 2016 at 06:14 PM

I am weird when it comes to my sex drive. I can masturbate like six times in one day then go weeks without wanting to. I haven't had actual sex in six years and I don't really give a damn either way.

If you are healthy and love your life and feel content, sex is nothing to be worried about.

Tbenjaminkx42 · Jun 11, 2016 at 12:05 PM

If you're a male, I would get your testosterone levels checked. The symptoms of low testosterone are incredibly similar to many types of depression. Especially when it comes to apathy. I spent years trying out different depression meds and one day saw a podcast dealing with veterans with mental issues. Interestingly; most of those who experienced traumatic head injuries had their pituitary glands rendered unable to produce testosterone. And this doctor(forgot what college and what his name was) started doing testosterone replacement therapy on them. 99% of them experienced full remission from their woes and depression(and I'd imagine a boost in sex drive) I can also say that it worked for myself. When I got my testosterone checked it was at 161 which is what a 90 year old mans should be. I'm 22 years old. After a couple months of TRT I was back up to 700.

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