[Yismymindblank12]

I'm struggling with my sexual needs, like they're many people here who consistently want to judge me or anyone who feels more open to sex period.

Like it's either all relationship and cry that you got used or be sappy and alone or get a good relationship. It's like I live in a place where casual sex for one time fun or occassional hook up buddy is deemed a taboo for single people. Like I really need to get away from this sex negativity specifically.

Like I don't think others as objects or as an availability, but I would love to ask without being harshly condoned how horrible I am for asking. Like people should stop this judgement thanks.

[Tsukiko]

When you say "people here", do you mean people on the forums or people where you live?

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by Tsukiko

When you say "people here", do you mean people on the forums or people where you live?

Where I live at sorry

[Tsukiko]

Cincinnati is pretty conservative. I feel your pain.

Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12

Where I live at sorry

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by Tsukiko

Cincinnati is pretty conservative. I feel your pain.

They all think so single mindedly of you don't fit in with the norms which are very strict you're out of luck outcast

[Yismymindblank12]

It's not that I can't say or ask what I want obviously when the situation arises, but it's a matter of when I do. I get shunned, like I completely wholeheartedly into and for exclusivity anytime any day anywhere and the traditional form.

It just doesn't make sense when people are single and they rather complain stay single and isolated or with a bf/gf no in between while single.

It's either you have this or that.

It really puts a damper on me wanting a relationship, because I know it's more than just sex and the petty things, but it really makes me feel enclosed all the time. Like I'm some caged animal I'm not allowed to be more sexually active than what is already available which isn't much at all.

It's not just me, like everyone here is treated or viewed that way.

It's like everywhere here people need to tell someone how they are diseased ridden useless or garbage, because they are more sexually active than the person who is shaming them.

It's sometimes the person is jealous, but most of the time it's the just how people view sex here. It's like, you have to be near married and dated a long time to get laid, or people think having sexual feelings is wrong all the time despite their actions prove otherwise.

Like time and time again, I scratch my head, asking, why do you go out on a one night stand with 3 dudes or with 2 girls or multiple people when single or in a committed relationship when usually when the partner isn't aware of their partners infidelity and just either cheat on their gf/bf and say they're for exclusivity and being with only one person.

Like I know they want and desire that, but the actions don't correlate, my focus isn't on their actions, I find it hypocritical these specific people of many others I know who act like this whether single or in a relationship put people down who are more sexually open and embrace they enjoy it for fun, not as an all or nothing deal.

Like it's that mindset that's so closed and not prudent, but just hypocritical makes no sense.

I get being declined for consent is all good and well, but why the animosity about what I feel about sex shouldn't concern you if I'm not with you or if you feel the need to change me to be "normal" is such ********...

Like I seriously feel out of place here