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May 21, 2016 at 12:58 PM
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Hi all,
Is sex wrong? I have only dated for about 2 months of my entire life. I am nearly 30 years old... I am scared to get into relationships but I want to. I feel I have some things to work through in terms of sex and morality... I struggle with it. I don't know where or why I feel this way. I have a lot of sex related triggers and I haven't really ever worked through them... I should say I have a diaper fetish or sorts that offers me a combination of sexual gratification and comfort, nurture and safety. Anyone know if sex therapists can help with this sort of thing? Thanks, HD __________________ "stand for those who are forgotten - sacrifice for those who forget" "roller coasters not only go up and down - they also go in circles" "the point of therapy - is to get out of therapy" "don't put all your eggs - in one basket" "promote pleasure - prevent pain" "with change - comes loss" |
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May 21, 2016 at 06:52 PM
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Hello HD: Well, I guess whether sex is wrong or not is a matter of individual perspective. Personally I wouldn't say it's either right or wrong. It's simply one element of life. Every living thing reproduces in one way or another (so far as I know.) And sex is one way in which reproduction occurs... plus... in human beings... it gets all intertwined with self-concept & emotions & all of that stuff... which makes it all just that much more complicated. As a result, at least from my perspective, it's not something to be taken lightly. But that doesn't make it wrong.
I don't know what the success rate is with regard to therapy & fetishes such as the one you have. From reading various posts here on PC, written by members who have had these, my impression is that they're very difficult to break & that it largely becomes more a matter of "indulging" in them safely than it is eliminating them. Perhaps other members, who have more experience with this than I, will yet reply to your post & offer some valuable information. I wish you well... 
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May 21, 2016 at 09:30 PM
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Sex is not wrong! It's very good for you!
As for fetishes, as long as two (or more) consenting adults enjoy it and wish to partake, I say have at it. |
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May 23, 2016 at 05:41 AM
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Wow that's tough. I worked in a fabric store and one time a guy called and outright asked if I had fabric for baby diapers. He said they were for him to wear and that is was for his fetish, and that's why he wanted to specially make them. Some people just don't feel as inhibited by their desires and disclosing them to others. It will make finding a relationship a lot harder if you are specifically interested in acting out your fetish with them. There is no point in denying that. Finding a person in day to day life and hoping that will want that would be difficult. Looking to a dating or chat site for people with alternative lifestyles/interests might be beneficial.
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May 24, 2016 at 07:52 PM
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Thank you for the replies it means so much. I will take all your advice and press on-wards with a therapist.
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Jun 01, 2016 at 08:38 AM
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No thank you HD797 from your openness and honesty.
 hope you have luck finding a good T.
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Jun 22, 2016 at 10:03 PM
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I am like you in so many ways. I, too, have a diaper fetish and find it difficult getting into relationships + making them last. I want to be completely open and honest, but I'd never force anyone to enjoy the things I like at all. As long as it's discussed, consensual and not harming anyone, I say have fun - I know...easier said than done when it's trouble finding others. I'll be 27 soon and really want it all myself.
I've been thinking about therapy too but not sure where to look. All the best! Thanks for being open, strong & brave 
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