Conflicting parts of personality (hypersexual and hate it)

Artchic528 · May 27, 2016 at 05:39 PM

I have two conflicting parts of my personality. On one side, I am hypersexual and want to satisfy that urge to have sex as often as possible, on the other side, I want to be the kind of woman who doesn't sleep around all the time. I often find my hypersexuality to be pulling me to do dangerous things, like inviting a guy I've only just met online that day to come to stay at my house for the night. I did post previously that I was at risk for doing dangerous things on here due to my hypersexuality. I was blinded by the urge to have sex and didn't follow my rules or safety at all. Thankfully, I had come to my senses and told him he couldn't stay at all, and he eventually stopped texting me.

I struggle deeply with listening to common sense and my sexual urges overpower it at times. I watch porn and masturbate frequently, but it only seems to placate me a little bit. Last night I masturbated at least 2-3 times, I kept on getting horny and had to do it. I'm scared that my sexual urges won't stop and I'll wind up doing something dangerous for real.

What should I do?

capricorn1975 · May 28, 2016 at 07:15 AM

Honestly I think you should get help....

Tsukiko · May 28, 2016 at 09:05 AM

Capricorn is right. It sucks but this issue is beyond what can be fixed by simple suggestions from the forum.

Please try to find a means of transportation to attend therapy sessions. Surely a family member or someone from work would be willing to help if you offer gas money?

Prism Bunny · May 28, 2016 at 09:37 AM

You may have a sex addiction, and you need to get help as soon as possible. If you cannot drive to the appointments, you can contact the department of human services. Or, after you apply for outpatient therapy (and psychiatrist) at your nearest center, you can ask if you can have assistant transportation. I had to use the service while attending a mental facility school. I was around mostly the elderly, but they take in people with mental health issues that cannot get themselves help.

Just go out there, and treat your self-destructive issues before you go further downhill and hurt yourself.

divine1966 · May 29, 2016 at 10:40 AM

In my experience I am hyper sexual when other things are not going well in my life, kind of like becoming obsessed with sex to compensate for lack of other things in life. When I feel good overall I think way less of sex. Could it be that other areas in your life need improvement?

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dwfieldjr · May 31, 2016 at 06:23 PM

I'm sorry your going through this. I think you need to get help as well. Stay safe.

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Lost_in_the_woods · Jun 01, 2016 at 01:13 AM

Yes I think maybe time to look for new T and or Pdoc. Ur profile says u r dxd w/ depression. But hypersexual splits r not usually something seen in dprssn. Have you talked w/ Ur treatment team about BP or BPD? Yes treating the most harmful symptoms which u talking about putting urself in dangerous situations when hyper sexual..I worry for ur safety!!

so regardless u should discuss that immediately... but making sure u have the proper dx in the long run is important. Cuz if it's Mania induced then a stabilizer might help and if it's a PD then both or either individual or group treatment geared towards a PD can be imperative to help you reduce implusivity and learn better coping skills. Knowledge is Power. Please be Safe!

Artchic528 · Jun 01, 2016 at 01:18 AM

It's not mania, because I don't particularly feel manic. I don't know what I have and to be honest, what does it matter? I am unable to get to where I need to go to get help because family won't help and I don't have friends....

Lost_in_the_woods · Jun 01, 2016 at 03:25 AM

Like I said treating the most immediate issues is the most important thing. And I understand your feelings about not wanting to be dxd. But your personal safety should be a xoncern. I many dxs some I have done extensive work on others I basically ignore as just a word on a piece of paper. You have to right not to want to be dxs or know if you are but I have found some of it helpful personally as information , a starting point to understand why I do or feel some of the things I do and to point myself in the direction of working on stuff that I dislike that I do or has caused me pain and problems. Sorry if I came off preachy. Didn't mean too. I just got worried when you said you were putting yourself in potentially harmful situations and you didn't really know why. Sorry if I offended you it was not my intention. Just trying to help. Be safe.

xRavenx · Jun 03, 2016 at 10:40 PM

I can relate to hypersexuality being something I struggle with as part of my symptoms of Bipolar I. When I get hypomanic (or manic), I won't think through decisions and end up making risky decisions without thinking them through, and the need for sex is very high. I focus on it too much when I get like that and during inappropriate times during the day.

Also, I often end up not using protection since my impulse control is so bad at that point, and I regret it terribly.

I would definitely recommend therapy, and it's something that I need to do for myself soon (since I took a break from it and have only been seeing the Psychiatrist). Mine tends to come and go, depending on what kind of episode it is. Either way, exploring more in therapy as to what else can be behind the Bipolar and why the need is something that has to fulfilled might help you gain the insight. Is it filling a void, perhaps? A lot to think about. Hope that helps a little.

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capricorn1975 Member Member Since Feb 2009 Location: Reed City Mi Posts: 168 15 46 hugs given	May 28, 2016 at 07:15 AM #2 Honestly I think you should get help....
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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,386 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	May 29, 2016 at 10:40 AM #5 In my experience I am hyper sexual when other things are not going well in my life, kind of like becoming obsessed with sex to compensate for lack of other things in life. When I feel good overall I think way less of sex. Could it be that other areas in your life need improvement? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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dwfieldjr Member Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Bfe Posts: 447 9	May 31, 2016 at 06:23 PM #6 I'm sorry your going through this. I think you need to get help as well. Stay safe. Sent from my Nexus 4 using Tapatalk
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