Is it normal?

I am 20, and now i feel that sex is DISGUSTING. Sometime i even want to throw up when my friends mention those horrible stuffs about sex to me. I used to have sex about over a year ago with my ex-bf . But i had never enjoyed it even once. And whenever i think about it, i feel i hate myself, i hate being a human that have to do these DISGUSTING stuffs.
Is it normal to be feeling like this? I'm worrying about my future, the marriage life...

It's not normal, but there might be a logical reason for it. Were you ever sexually abused or raped (if you want to share)? Did either or both of your parents have a disgusted or negative attitude about sex? Did you get a lot of bad impressions from guys who wanted nothing but sex? That could have a lot to do with it.

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I am 20, and now i feel that sex is DISGUSTING. Sometime i even want to throw up when my friends mention those horrible stuffs about sex to me. I used to have sex about over a year ago with my ex-bf . But i had never enjoyed it even once. And whenever i think about it, i feel i hate myself, i hate being a human that have to do these DISGUSTING stuffs.
Is it normal to be feeling like this? I'm worrying about my future, the marriage life...

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I first wonna say you are not wierd! Many ppl feel or have felt this way at a certain point in life. Even if there was never any sexual abuse in your past its sttill normal. Firstly I think you wish you had a sex drive and thats completely fine, I may be wrong so plz take that loosely the reason for me thinking that is because you botheered to post about it, you have reason to want a drive.

I'm 17 a virgin and a male, I think of sex differently despite my current struggle which I'm having problems with that are similar to yours only I am acting upon a sex drive and regreting it. I'm really sorry I probably haven't helped, I really do care tho, I would recommend a therapist but I know how tough it can be to see one...but in the end its really helpful =). I'm here listening anytime...

Dustin

I think i did have when i was 6... This has been a bad memory all my life.
But it wasn't that bad when i was in love with my ex and we did those disgusting sex. But now that we are broken up, and i feel like i was being cheated for sex. And i'm regretted for how stupid i was all those times. Beside than this, i've hooked up with a wired guy just after i broke up with my ex, but i did nothing, juz lil kissing n touching, cuz i stopped him and dumped him striagh after that, but i felt that it is still so disgusting and i hate guys more n more. And untill now, my reaction toward these stuffs are going worse n worse. I hate guys, but i don't think i love same female either.
Yes, my parents are quite traditional, they don'n accept sex before marriage, so we never had chance to talk about it, maybe not untill i'm married.
So what is actually going on with me?

Yes, i appriciate your advice. I hope i am not weird as what you've said, but i'm worried. I have quite a lot of questions that is unanswered. Would therapist cost much? Because i am not rich enough.

It sounds like you have a lot of deep issues regarding sex. I don't know how much sex therapists charge in general, but they can be expensive. I'm not sure if they take insurance. Maybe a regular therapist would be enough to help you. You can find some who accept payment on a sliding scale. Try calling a mental health clinic in your area.