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Default Nov 17, 2016 at 11:02 AM
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I was seeing a guy earlier on this year and hooked up with him again recently (against my better judgement). I came off the Pill last month because I didn't think anything was happening and didn't see it going anywhere. He came up last week again and used a condom, and was of course annoyed that I came off the Pill. Probably I should have stayed on the Pill or not let him back in my life. He says using condoms feels weird when he comes and won't wear one. He has pressured me to go back on the Pill before my period even after I told him I got stomach cramps and felt sick the last time I took it early. He was coming over tonight and has called off because I wouldn't agree to him coming inside me (with no protection). I told him I wasn't on the Pill at the start of the conversation and never agreed during it to have unprotected sex. He then said it was screwing with his head. He directed the conversation in a dirty direction. I told him several times I didn't want to have unprotected sex. He made me feel bad to not agreeing to it. I'm 41. But I can't risk getting pregnant. Should I be feeling guilty for this? He isn't willing to use protection for me and expects me to chance getting pregnant. Am I a ***** for turning him down?
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Default Nov 17, 2016 at 05:53 PM
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I really, really, really think that you should stand by your ground and insist on condoms or refuse to have sex. You certainly can get pregmant and why risk an STD? You are so not a B****!! You need to put your needs first because your BF doesn't seem to care. Good luck!
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Default Nov 18, 2016 at 11:16 AM
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He sounds like a spoiled, manipulating ***! Tell him to own up & wear a stupid condom. Their still not 100% so there's still a risk.
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Default Nov 18, 2016 at 01:45 PM
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I was seeing a guy earlier on this year and hooked up with him again recently (against my better judgement). I came off the Pill last month because I didn't think anything was happening and didn't see it going anywhere. He came up last week again and used a condom, and was of course annoyed that I came off the Pill. Probably I should have stayed on the Pill or not let him back in my life. He says using condoms feels weird when he comes and won't wear one. He has pressured me to go back on the Pill before my period even after I told him I got stomach cramps and felt sick the last time I took it early. He was coming over tonight and has called off because I wouldn't agree to him coming inside me (with no protection). I told him I wasn't on the Pill at the start of the conversation and never agreed during it to have unprotected sex. He then said it was screwing with his head. He directed the conversation in a dirty direction. I told him several times I didn't want to have unprotected sex. He made me feel bad to not agreeing to it. I'm 41. But I can't risk getting pregnant. Should I be feeling guilty for this? He isn't willing to use protection for me and expects me to chance getting pregnant. Am I a ***** for turning him down?
He's a d1ck. Lose him. I hate that women get manipulated by idiots like this. They are why men are seen as being pigs. There are far too many guys out there like this and they won't change your ways unless you ladies stand up to them.

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Default Nov 18, 2016 at 02:44 PM
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Directly speaking my opinion:
You are not being a *****?
It's also your right to choose wheter or not to use the pill..
Its his choice whether or not to accept it..Cheers to you and keep strong!
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