NEED HELP ASAP!

(((( Roto ))))

So glad you're finding good help and support!!

While you may need a break from sex - you may also probably need to take a break from viewing porn.

Do you think you can do this for 30 days?
... and not entertain any sexual thoughts that comes to your mind.

lol could be hard!!!!!! 30 days seems like a long time, but im going to do it. I thank you Rhapsody, for everything. i think thats a great thing this whole psych central thing and i thank you very much!

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lol could be hard!!!!!! 30 days seems like a long time, but im going to do it.

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Good for YOU......... and don't forget to wear the rubber band around your wrist for when desires for porn or intrusive thoughts/images enters your mind unwanted - after you snap the band make sure you think (or say out loud) a positive thought to replace the negative unwanted one with.

REMEMBER - - - - - YOU can do IT - I DID!!!!!!

i hope i can, im just so scared that ive turned gay or whatever and i dont want that to be so.

Im also going to see a school consulor tommorow.

Good for you....... after reading your first sentence I was going to suggest seeing a counseling to help you through this and then I read the second sentence and you had already beat me to it.

... just remember to be HONEST when YOU talk to the counselor - Good Luck.

I will! Thank you so much and im gonna continue posting on here because I think its so important for me to continue talkin to everyone on here.. and i hope i do beat this, thank you so much for all of this.

i guess the other thing is recently i cna remember early on in life like i was always WAYYYYY more attracted to women and stuff and everything but i do remember a couple same sex thoughts but it was never like oh im attracted to a certain guy or what not, and ive always viewed myself as heterosexual. i NEVER had an attraction to another guy or anything of that sort, could that mean something like ive hid it from myself all this time and i was attracted to women forever and now whatever this like happened or what not?

ya its getting worse again ,but im seeing the consulor tommorow and all of a sudden ive found u guys as support. But thanks so much, im really struggling and just trying so hard to put the thoughts out of my mind.

hi rotosurvivor. i am a lesbian and the way i came to terms with it was that i tried to figure out why being gay frightened me so much. i realised it was because i didnt accept the gay life as being healthy, right, whole, fulfilling etc. and i realised that meant i didnt see gay people as fully equal to straight people. so i started to work on my discriminatory attitude because i hate to discriminate against anyone. i started to work towards seeing gay people as no more disadvantaged or 'wrong' as straight people. once i came to accept gay people more there was nothing standing between me and my sexuality at all. i found myself free to pursue whatever person attracted me. for me that was women. with all that discrimination and inequality out of the way my personal desire became much more clear.
as well as that i tried being with a few guys before and even after i accepted i was gay. for me i found it plain boring. before i accepted being gay as a possibility i thought maybe there was something wrong with me that i wasnt feeling any urge to kiss the guy i was going out with. once i accepted the gay life i realised it was ok to not want to kiss a guy.
what im saying is if you can first try to accept the gay life as no more scary than the straight life and if you can then maybe go on a date with a guy the answers should come fairly easily after that. either you re bored with the guy in which case you re straight or you re willing to try to kiss him and more. in which case... you like the guy! dont label yourself! just go with your feelings. maybe he s the only guy you ll ever like in your life and the rest of your life will be spent loving girls or maybe not. once both lives seem equally valid to you it ceases to matter. you can go after your attraction without any outside interference.
personally i think you should go on a date with a guy because i suspect you will find you maybe have a good time (if the guy is cool) but you ll find you want to meet him to 'support' the cheerleaders at the next football game more than you want to kiss him!
dont fight the thoughts. there s nothing wrong with them. let them come and see how natural they feel. if they feel good go with them. if they make you feel like you re trying to like guys then thats your cue to get bored with them and go back to girls!
just my humble opinion.
good luck to you anyway and take care
biiv

yeah i apprecite the post. I really dont want that homosexual lifestlye, its more in my head and i also was so exclusively heterosexual, never have been with a guy, and really am not willing to kiss a guy, i really just want these thoughts to go away. also, i never was gay before this or anything i was in love, and i mean REALLY in love once and also sort of in love another time with women, so therefore isnt it possible that i couldnt be any more than bi? I also spent such a long poeriod of time with women and i dont think i ever go out and am attracted to guys or whatever like i dont see a guy ever and say, omg hes so cute or whatever, so i mean i doubt that, and im not into the "gay lifestyle", like im really into sports and into stuff like that, and iw as a wrestler in high school and i never had any attraction then either so i mean thats got to be something else right? ive also never had feelings of love or anything for another guy and at age 20, wouldnt i have experienced this already? this started with me obsessing over this stuff at first, im really not willing to go out and pursue it and i cant tell if thats cause i fear it so much or dont want to be gay or whatever... btw i hope in my fear im not coming off homophobic or anything, i do not mean to offend or anything at all. the attraction for me was always women.

i think we are all a bit gay . I like to look at naked woman although i would never have sex with one. I just think there bodies are attractive. I also like the way men look and that is what i chooose for my sexual orentaition.so it all depends i dont think your going gay ithink alll th porn is making you change your mind back and forth alll the time

Actually she's right, we are all gay to an extent or straight to an extent. It just depends with side of the continum you are on. There are only 3% of people in the WORLD that are 100% gay or straight most of us are in the range of 60%-80%. That means you can find someone of the same sex attractive but not want to go to bed with them, geez! We all know our limits here. Dude, I knew something was up with me when my whole mentalness started. I would get thoughts for awhile, I would get angry, disgusted, scared, anxious, then suddenly, they would disappear and I'd feel like me again. I'd feel great, then BAM, I see something on TV or the media about homosexuals then I'd been in the midst of it again "Am I gay? Can I turn gay? How do I know I'm not gay? %#@&#! I'm gay! No, I'm not thats disgusting! (to me at least)." The truth is, I've never been a homophobe. I've always thought "hey whatever floats your boat buddy." I've even been hit on by gay people but I would just say to them, no thanks, not interested. I've even had many heterosexual relationships in the past, even been in love once or twice. So I knew the thoughts didn't make any sense. But the only way you are going to beat this is if you study the disorder that's messing with your head and see a therapist. Dude, you can't turn gay anymore than you can turn into a chicken. It's okay to have thoughts that seem bizarre to you, EVERYBODY does. I see people telling you to give a homosexual experience a try, dude if you wanted to do that, you would have do so already because that is what you would have wanted. Good luck man, I hope the resources I gave you shed some light on the subject.

THanks again to everyone for the posts. Yeah I REALLY DONT WANT TO, but im worried my mind, subconscious want to because i continue to have like dreams and stuff, i wake up, and im disgusted by whats happened but i have like an erection and i like get so disgusted at that thought, and it scaes the hell out of me, or like whatever. I just get so nervous and stuff, i saw a consulor on monday or i guess shed be a psychiatrist, shes employed by my school and what not. I hope to god my orientation hasnt changed because it continues to mess with my subconscious, and the stuff is going on is pretty hardcore, which scares me too.. this dream was kind of strange, basically i bought gay porn from borat and then like watched it, and envisioned it from my head. it was the strangest, yet scariest dream ever. I know were all gay to an extent, but im wondering if i changed orientation or what not. I just want these thoughts to stop so i hope the therapist continues to help, it helped temporarily to let this all off, and taking a break from porn should help.

Aight everybody