[ilikecats]

I can't orgasm, and a guy I'm going to be having sex with has a lot of trouble cumming. So if neither person is going to come, when does sex end? It seems like it'll be awkward or something.

[LifeInProgress]

I have great difficulty in achieving orgasm. As a 51 year old, diabetic, male on psych meds that is not really a surprise.

I still find sex very enjoyable. You are right there isn't a clear end signal. If you and your partner can talk about it openly, especially before it becomes an awkward issue between you that will help. I think you can come to a mutual agreement as to when you are ready to stop and transition to after play, cuddling, or just getting dressed.

Open communication is a wonderful component of a good sex life.

It's sort of rare for my H not to be satisfied but when it occasionally happens he says something like, "Ok, that's 76 times for me, and one for you"; or when it's not happening for me, I'll say something like, "I think it's your turn tonight", or "We'll revisit this in the morning", or he'll say, "I think you're just too hot for this to happen tonight" (the times I keep asking for more and more but don't orgasm and he is literally getting worn out), etc.
When it feels really good the night before and you don't orgasm, have you tried the next morning? (Sometimes the activities from the day before can make it happen quickly the next day.) Do achieve orgasms through masterbation? A vibrator? In a hot steamy shower? If you experiment a lot, you may figure out how to eventually achieve it. Also, I have noticed that, usually, in the past, I tend to have about 3-7 days a months where I am not "primed" for it. And, when I had regular periods, I was especially "hot" during the two weeks prior to it. So I think our hormones do effect our ability to orgasm. That's a lot of talk but maybe there is one thing from it all that will be useful for you?