[seeker1950]

I have made myself totally asexual for three years now, but this afternoon, after working hard around the house, I took a nap and had a highly sexual dream in which I actually had an orgasm! Waking up flushed and a bit perplexed, I'm wondering if this is a good thing? I have so denied myself of such thoughts, and the man in the dream was a generic stranger!
Patty

[bebop]

I once had a dream and woke up having an orgasm. that was wow! lol
I think maybe it shows you still have needs. we all do hon.

why have you made yourself asexual for? and... what do you mean by that?

[debbie_tabor]

Hey, I'm asexual too, and that's the only way I get to have sex! I've always thought it was the female equivalent of having a wet dream.

[drummergrl]

It can be, only you don't have to SHARE anything!!! It's probably the safest sex you'll ever experience!! There are a lot more women out there that prefer this to a man, if they were brutally HONEST!!! Quite frankly, I've been totally assexual for more than a decade and I don't feel the need to have a man in my bed at all. Does that make me weird?
Only to those who can't live without it!!! I'm my own person now and I choose what goes on with me, not any man. I wasn't very good at it anyway. It was never one of my favorite things to do. My mother told me it will be the most
beautiful thing you'll ever experience, honey"..............hahaha
what a laugh!!! It was the worst thing I'd ever felt.
But again, that's just MY personal opinion. You don't have to disagree, or agree. I prefer my imagination next to someone slobbering all over me. Yeeeech!!!!

[seeker1950]

Alex...my experiences with men, especially since my divorce, have been so horrific, I've taken this as a lesson and decided to abstain from it. You get burned enough times, you learn to avoid the flame.
Patty

[seeker1950]

Bebop! Yeah...the dream was kinda nice. But, disturbing to me in my current mindset!
Love
Patty

[seeker1950]

Debbie and Drummer...
I'm like this, but wonder if it is healthy? We are all sexual animals, and denying myself of this for so long, it has impacted my being in many ways, particularly my physical appearance, which I've ignored to the point that I barely recognize myself now when I look in the mirror. Sounds bad, doesn't it! I'm thinking that this dream is a sign that I need to start taking care of my needs myself, since I have no inclination to be with a man!
Patty

seeker,

I said this in my pregnancy hormones thread but it bears repeating. If it makes you feel any better I now have at LEAST three or four dreams a night where i am sleeping with somene and wake up mid orgasm too. Its strange, Ill say that for sure. I think my brain is promiscuous!

But I don't think its really all that out of this world to happen either - I mean our bodies at a basic level are programmed to procreate so it makes sense that our unconcious mind would seek out fantasies about it.

[seeker1950]

Rain...When I was pregnant, I was most sexual in thought! I think it's the hormones. Well past that age now, having gone thru menopause at 41, age 56 now, I think I'm in a state of transition about sex and relationships. It's a bit of a grieving time, letting go.
Love
Patty

[bebop]

Patty hon there is nothing at all wrong with pleasing yourself. I know we all have needs that need to be met in one way or another and since you don't want another man then as I tell people "take matters in hand" lol actually toys are nice, safe and pleasurable.

[debbie_tabor]

Healthy, hmm, dunno. I quite liked the sex in the 2 week relationship I once had, but I can't quite bring myself to "put myself out there" to find a relationship. I'll put it this way, I'm saving myself the trouble you've had with men and arriving at the same conclusion!!! You may be right in the interpretation of your dream!

[GYPSYEYES]

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Patty hon there is nothing at all wrong with pleasing yourself. I know we all have needs that need to be met in one way or another and since you don't want another man then as I tell people "take matters in hand" lol actually toys are nice, safe and pleasurable.

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[findebsoon]

Hey rockers; Being assexual can have its appeal but I have
trouble in that because when my lover caresses and touches
me in tenderness and whispers softly and lovingly you can't
say you don't sometimes think well maybe. You see touch is
universal. But your point is just as valid.
Although its necessary sometimes. But also me being assexaul which I can practice and do sometimes 5 years now
the reason being is " No Body Does It Better". Can this be
some reason why I'm not in a relationship, eh?


DB

Absolutely natural to pleasure oneself, my hubby works nights so I often bring out a toy for company lol. Only just received this 'toy ' actually, quite nice not to have to please it just the other way lol bit boring after when you fancy a chat though hehe.

Jinny xoxoxoxoxo