I need some advice...

I personally am not interested in bdsm or sado/masohism or any similar interactions. It would be out of the question for me. If my husband absolutely needed that or he’d be unsatisfied, I’d be out. Well we wouldn’t marry to begin with. But it just me. I understand that others who aren’t into this might t still try it for their partner. So if he absolutely must have it then you have some choices to make.

I didn't mind so much the disagreement, it was the rampant and downright infantile way I was being called out that really was unfair to me, as well as the way the thread became an argument between two members.

You asked for advice. The other member and I had different opinions. Maybe we got a little carried away, but I think we both gave you perspectives to consider. Ultimately you come across as though the only opinions you want are ones that agree with you. If you've already made up your mind about what you are willing to do, maybe closing this thread is for the best.

Yeah, maybe you're right. I've contacted the Admin and Mod team for further advice on the matter, and the thread sure has run it's course...