Philosophical question about porn

Okay, so if you are absolutely anti-porn and don't watch it, think it's vile, whatever, please just don't respond. This isn't that kind of a question.

So, I don't really know what any kind of average is, but I feel like I watch a significant amount of porn. I'm not in a relationship, but I do enjoy masturbating. And sometimes I'll turn on some porn to watch while I do so. I use porn, maybe 4 out of 7 days a week.

I'm not ashamed of this. Nor am I addicted. I don't need porn. If you took it away forever I wouldn't cry. I enjoy it, but it's not necessary. I have a plenty active imagination and plenty of sexual experience to get the job done myself.

But I feel like, I dunno, if a partner found out I watched this much porn that he might be turned off by it? I just see so many things lately from people who are so anti-porn...I don't necessarily want to do the things in the porn either, I like to watch.

I have watched porn with partners and I enjoy that too.

I guess my question is, for those of you who watch porn and are also sexually active, how much do you watch, how often?

Thanks,
Seesaw

well if you were to find someone that is turned off by it, unless for some reason they were in every other way perfect it would be kind of a sign that there would be trouble down the road. Just need to find people that aren't so opposed to it.

Me, shoot, I watch it, and pretty much use it same as you and go further in the sense that some of the art I do is quite erotic though kind of stops short of being hard core. so I personally have no issues with it though within that realm I do have limits as to what I find acceptable.. but that's a subject for a nother thread.

About the same as you, but I'm not sexually active at the moment, although I wish I was sometimes and get very lonely I also struggle enormously with physical and sexual contact, plus I'm very bad at forming or sustaining relationships and scared of going out socially so all in all porn is the safest option for me. Even then I experience a lot of guilt, not from a prudish POV, it's just I do tend to agree with some of the arguments about how porn can be abusive, honestly I think a lot is very misogynistic towards women and I really love women and hate misogyny so I do try to find stuff that is pro women or even feminist but that's not always easy.

Okay, well, let's veer away from discussing content. Because I do agree that a lot of porn can be abusive towards women. But some porn is produced by women for women..that's a whole different discussion. So let's steer away from content discussions. Although I'd be happy to discuss that in another thread. I have a lot of conflicting feelings about the content.

Thanks though for your honesty and willngness to share!

Seesaw

I think they would. I am not sexually active at the moment but I sometimes hang out on those adult chats and if I bring it up like it is sexy, it is a total turn off to guys. As is any talk of you pleasuring yourself. They want to hear how big their member is, that is all.

I think a lot of people would be surprised I watch porn. I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I think like most women a little goes a long way some stuff is just physically gross to me.

You must be from the south because up here in Northeast there no one is really anti-porn. We are too busy dealing with secret sex cults.

They must be weird, that sort of thing would turn me on more.

Nail on head...I'm in the deep South...

Ugh, bringing up porn to a guy is like shaking a bottle of catnip in front of your cat. Guys might just not be into the same kind of porn is all, and what you may like might bore them.

I watched porn with a girlfriend before and found it exhilarating, especially to find out what exactly her kink was. It was cool. I liked it so much because i was getting inside her head, so i understood her to a greater degree which was even more of a turn on.

PS: Midwestern here, but I live near college towns, so it's very liberal. One of my friends has a swinger relationship. I don't understand that.

Alright I am pro porn and love it. Super hot. I do have sex and I do watch porn but I don't have an average of how often. It varies depending on how I'm feeling.

Why would you even care what a future man thinks? Like anything some guys will find it hot and some will find it to be a turn off. Cross that bridge when you get there. Otherwise? Play on.

I don't get aniti-porn rhetoric. The only way I'd ever be against it is if the persons involved in the filming, aka the actors, were not consenting about it. I'm not talking about rape fantasy porn, that's just another genre in the industry.

I'm talking about the treatment of the actress primarily. I know they are being paid to preform a certain series of tasks/acts, and sometimes a certain actress is in high demand for a certain genre or genres.

I'm moreso delving into the deep seedy underbelly of the porn industry and all that it entails. I'll not get into specifics, because I don't want to trigger anyone, but I'll just say that sex trafficking involves a lot of porn making.

Back to the topic on hand though, as I feel I'm derailing this thread now....I watch porn about 2-4 times a week. It's more often 2 than 4. I used to have more of a libido, but it's kind of mellowed out a tiny bit. I blame the anti-depressants for that.

As for what my boyfriend thinks about me watching it, he's okay with it. Of course, we've been long distance for a while so it's sort of a necessary thing, and I find sharing our favorite genre specific porn brings us closer together as a couple. I'd love to watch porn with him in person, I think that would be extremely hot. We could find a porn we both like and try and act out the scenes together!

Besides, it could be a huge motivating factor for him because he's a complete "has not held hands with a girl yet" virgin, and this might give him confidence, relax him and help to set the mood. I've also heard it gives men a sort of competitive drive when they see porn and are having sex, like they need to prove they are more of a man than the male porn star and get their partner to climax faster or something.

Then again, it depends on the guy I suppose. For some it might just make them feel inferior to see a male porn star's "equipment" when comparing it to their own.

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Yeah I think it's down to each individual. I wouldn't think there's anything wrong with it if a girl I was interested in watched porn, though porn doesn't do much for me personally.

you've only experienced a certain type of guy apparently because I know for a fact there are plenty of guys that would not look at it that way or be turned off by your bringing it up as something sexy. I am quite pleased when a woman I am talking to for any reason is not against or even is into it because I personally don't find anything wrong with it.


I think your latter statement about culture is limited information at best I lived both in the north and here in the south. I find at best that it's an individual choice and sure there are some trends but we have to take those with a grain of salt. I have found that people against porn varies in all cultures too much to really take it into account too much but then when I am conversing with someone about such things, I'm really not considering trends of any kind like that. I'm also very much against relying to any significant degree on statistical analysis when it comes to social related issues. but I digress.

I think most people may be shocked that you look at porn because you're a female and I have to admit I've grown up with the idea that women don't find such things interesting or attractive and am still adjusting to the idea that women watch it too.

In general porn is a private thing that even if we feel internally ok about it, we keep it mostly to ourselves and therefore when people openly state they think it's ok (outside of forums like this) people either act shocked (half the time) or really are shocked due to the reasons just stated.

Typically I don't bring up the fact that porn is something I would be into in real life. But after seeing anonymous men react badly to it it does make me wonder if any of the real life men that didn't react badly were genuine or just thought that was what I wanted them to say. And thus another reason I don't bring it up.

I do also think that what one person thinks "porn" is.. isn't necessarily what another does. Some people think of porn as hard core.. some think of it as soft core skinamax. I know Seesaw didn't want to get into content but that is really a wide umbrella.

Meh. Porn is kind of a non issue for me. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Unless someone gets so obsessed that it interferes with their personal life, job, etc.

I’m probably not a good partner to watch porn with because I usually find it hilariously funny. 5 seconds into doing the deed and the woman is thrashing around in throws of exstacy. Seriously? I guess that’s all I have to say.

While active, maybe about 2 twice a week.
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I think in general society is way too uptight about porn. I have a couple videos I love that I've watched with friends. I'm not kidding either. I wont lie, I quite love porn and there is so much good stuff out there. So hot.

It's up there with judgement on going to the strippers. I pole dance for fun so my 35th birthday I took a group of girl friends pole dancing and then let a bunch of friends at the strippers. I'm bi so I enjoyed a lap dance. It was awesome. Thankfully my friends are either as open as me or are just open minded.

The point? Life's short. Have fun.

Any one else?

Porn was the only way I could figure out my sexual preference for certain. Without getting into content too much, I spent plenty of time on Rule34 and Tumblr even when I was in relationships, because I'm much more attracted to animated characters than real humans. I go on for at least a few minutes a day. Men I've dated have admitted to me the amount of porn they watched, and seemed afraid I would judge them for it. Not at all, and I added that I could probably go toe-to-toe with them on porn viewing.

Needless to say (unless you've ventured to Rule34), the porn I enjoy is almost exclusively images, and not videos. But when I've tried to watch live action human video porn? No thanks. I'm only interested in 3D sex when I'm participating in it. Not only is it hard for me to take it seriously for the reasons Shazerac mentioned, but 3D people doing it... just not interested.