Daddy Issues

Oct 02, 2018 at 06:32 PM

This term completely fits me. I had an absent father and am pulled to dominant, confident men. I am conscious of the fact that I seek all of the things I do (wont list them all here) because of this issue.

My question is, is it a problem that needs to be fixed or is it natural?

Fuzzybear · Oct 02, 2018 at 06:58 PM

This is a good question. I had an absent father too... and was engaged to an abuser for a while, he was dominant and (over) confident in some areas. If this issue causes you pain, therapy could help. I’m not sure what sort of therapy though (there aren’t many good therapists in this forest) Maybe you could try working with a male therapist if you aren’t already (?)

Oct 02, 2018 at 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

This is a good question. I had an absent father too... and was engaged to an abuser for a while, he was dominant and (over) confident in some areas. If this issue causes you pain, therapy could help. I’m not sure what sort of therapy though (there aren’t many good therapists in this forest) Maybe you could try working with a male therapist if you aren’t already (?)

I dont think I could handle a Male therapist. I could see myself developing feelings for them as they are a figure of authority.

Bill3 · Oct 06, 2018 at 09:26 AM

It is possible that developing the feelings in therapy would give you an opportunity to understand them and work through them. It would be essential, though, that the therapist be safe and have good boundaries.

Oct 07, 2018 at 08:38 AM

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It is possible that developing the feelings in therapy would give you an opportunity to understand them and work through them. It would be essential, though, that the therapist be safe and have good boundaries.

Well that's the thing. Safe and good boundaries. How can you tell really? I'm kind of a hot mess over all. I cling to dominate male figures. I feel like one way or another I would make a mess of things.

Bill3 · Oct 07, 2018 at 10:40 AM

So you would have no confidence that working with a male therapist would end well.

Oct 07, 2018 at 01:52 PM

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So you would have no confidence that working with a male therapist would end well.

It's just fear.

Bill3 · Oct 07, 2018 at 05:10 PM

I wonder if you have any significant (nonromantic) interactions with males now.

Oct 07, 2018 at 05:15 PM

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I wonder if you have any significant (nonromantic) interactions with males now.

I'm going to send you a PM.

Miss P · 03:48 AM

I feel and get this, so, so much. The men in my life (both in my family n those I went on to choose) are brilliant, but all f'd up in their own way. Hurt people, hurt people. No excuses, but unfortunately, the facts remain. Pm if you ever want or need

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Anonymous50287 Guest Posts: n/a	Oct 02, 2018 at 06:32 PM #1 This term completely fits me. I had an absent father and am pulled to dominant, confident men. I am conscious of the fact that I seek all of the things I do (wont list them all here) because of this issue. My question is, is it a problem that needs to be fixed or is it natural?
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,948 15 24.1k hugs given	Oct 06, 2018 at 09:26 AM #4 It is possible that developing the feelings in therapy would give you an opportunity to understand them and work through them. It would be essential, though, that the therapist be safe and have good boundaries.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,948 15 24.1k hugs given	Oct 07, 2018 at 10:40 AM #6 So you would have no confidence that working with a male therapist would end well.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,948 15 24.1k hugs given	Oct 07, 2018 at 05:10 PM #8 I wonder if you have any significant (nonromantic) interactions with males now.
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Miss P Member Member Since Mar 2018 Location: England Posts: 142 6 322 hugs given	Oct 11, 2018 at 02:31 AM #10 I feel and get this, so, so much. The men in my life (both in my family n those I went on to choose) are brilliant, but all f'd up in their own way. Hurt people, hurt people. No excuses, but unfortunately, the facts remain. Pm if you ever want or need Last edited by Miss P; Oct 11, 2018 at 03:48 AM..
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