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Hello to all of you.
As in title, I have a big big problem. I can't identify myself as heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual or whatever. I had a crush on a boy when I was 11 and that's it. I'm a virgin, but I enjoy lesbian porn. So I'm not aromantic neither asexual. I can easily point things I like in the appearance of both men and women, but I'm attracted only to women's body. I discovered earlier in my life that I can love someone because of their personality, appearance doesn't matter to me as long as that person isn't gross. I'm not focusing on my love life and I won't be for a long time still, unless I meet someone special. So I won't be getting any experience anytime soon. I know I don't need to rush, but I'd love to label myself. I would just feel better about myself. So I'm asking you for help. Do you know any way I could label myself without falling in love? What do you think I should label myself as? |
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Hello BroccoliOfLife: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.
![]() I'm sorry I don't think I could even begin to tell you how you could label your sexual identity or what that label might be. ![]() ![]() ![]() I think the one thing I feel I can say with some authority, is that matters related to sexual orientation can be very confusing. ![]() ![]() I hope you find PC to be of benefit. ![]() |
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Thanks for warm welcome!
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Thank you for your reply. If my problem will bother me more someday, I'll go to the therapist. Lots of love! |
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Why do you feel it requires definition? You could just keep yourself open minded and see what comes your way. Even if you defined yourself, it could change over time. Give yourself permission to just be you and put labeling on the shelf for now.
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I would just feel better if I could say to myself "I am straight" or "I am gay". But you're right. Why does it even matter right now? I will just put labeling aside and do it when (if) the time comes. __________________ An INFJ, teen, couch potato. Friendly couch potato! |
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are you possibly pansexual? ( gender blind, they don't care about gender since theyre not attracted to any particular genders) it's just a suggestion, don't take my word as truth . you don't NEED labels but i get that they can help.
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Instead of waiting until you fall in love, what if you go by what you are attracted to?
You specifically said that you are attracted to women’s bodies. What if you”try on” the idea that you are a lesbian and see how well it fits you? |
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Hello BroccoliOfLife,
Yes, you can absolutely be asexual and have crushes/want a romantic relationship! Most non-asexual people experience romantic and sexual attraction at the same time and don't differentiate, but romantic and sexual attraction don't have to go together. For every sexual orientation, there is a corresponding romantic orientation (heterosexual and heteroromantic, for example), and your romantic and sexual orientations don't have to match up. To me, it sounds like you could be heteroromantic asexual because you describe being romantically but not sexually attracted to men, but your attraction to women seems to be more platonic. |
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Thanks for all the replies. I thought about it a lot and I decided, that right now I see my future with woman. I know sexuality is fluid, so maybe as time goes by I will think differently. Thank you for helping me!
__________________ An INFJ, teen, couch potato. Friendly couch potato! |
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