A frank oral sex question

absolutely

If she seems to be enjoying it, yes, I love to go down on a woman. Anything I can do that is sexually satisfying to her is a turn on to me.

Cyran0

I truly believe all men deserve a bj on his birthday. But I have issues from my childhood which make it not so easy to do without the gag reflex and bad memories. My only solution is get drunk, then I'm quite into it. I'm not a drinker so that can be a problem too. My hubby says I owe him a few bj's...his birthday is coming in May.

do a lot of guys not like going down on girls? Ive dated some guys who LOVED it and some guys who refused. Its not like I like giving head but I still do it. Typically I do it 5-7 days a month lol. I always take it personally if a guy doesnt want to go down on me.

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do a lot of guys not like going down on girls? Ive dated some guys who LOVED it and some guys who refused. Its not like I like giving head but I still do it. Typically I do it 5-7 days a month lol. I always take it personally if a guy doesnt want to go down on me.

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I think if a partner doesn't like it it's because of lack of communication. Reminds me of the movie CHASING AMY where the character Banky explains the problem how chicks never give status updates of a guy's performance in oral sex.

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Typically I do it 5-7 days a month lol. I always take it personally if a guy doesnt want to go down on me.

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Cyran0 picks up his own jaw. 5 to 7 times a month? *gulp* That's, umm, generous. And umm, wow...

I think some guys get turned off to going down due to a bad experience. Either someone was particularly nasty down there or the girl didn't seem to like it and made the guy self conscious. Not having a vagina, we're completely guessing what feels good down there and if a guy decides he doesn't know what to do, he'll just refuse (he sure as hell wont admit to needing directions).

I wish my wife liked it more (she assures me it's just not her thing and it has nothing to do with my technique...Now if you girls are smirking and thinking "yeah right", please don't tell me as I'm paranoid on this front already) as I'd happily do it more often.

K. Feeling self conscious now. But I swear I've had girlfriends in the past who really liked it and umm, yeah, I'm sure my technique is fine.

Cyran0

DANG...I dont even get sex 5 to 7 times a freakin YEAR.....let alone oral...for either of us.



Ok...'nuff complaining. At least my husband is a nice guy and a good father i should be happy for what i got right...

Cyran0 like ur wife im not into guys going down on me im happy always giving them as many BeeJays as they desired..

he says its because he had tried it before and the girl said he wasn't good.

i really don't notice if it never happens. i cant go that way anyways, so it's nothing spectacular on my end. so i don't think its always because the person is bad at it. ive had to ask guys to stop before because they were so bad lol. and they loved doing it! and im just thinking "god.... is this ever going to go anywhere? I feel like im in a continuous loop of mediocrity!"

do you think she would tell you if it was because you were bad? My thinking is that, if she does like it, she would probably rather hurt your feelings once and tell you how youre doing it wrong, than go the rest of her life w/o it. so she's probably telling the truth.

Yup, that's what I tell myself when I cry myself to sleep at night.

Cyran0